Over 70 Breakout Options for Your Ministry

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Options, especially customized options, just make life better. 

Imagine walking into your favorite ice cream shop and there only being vanilla, chocolate, and strawberry. Or imagine going to a car lot with only one option to buy. Customized options can give you exactly what you need in the context you need it. 

At this year’s Orange Conference you have over 70 options for your breakouts. Ministry leaders from around the country with different backgrounds and specialties will create customizable options for you to select from help you improve your leadership and ministry. You can choose from the following breakout tracks: Children, City Strategy, Family Experience, General, High School, Lead Small, Middle School, NextGen Leader, Orange 101, Parent Strategy, Phase, Preschool, Preteen, Rural Strategy, Salvation Army, Special-Needs, Start Up, and Volunteer. 

This “choose your own adventure” style of breakout options can help you pick what is most relevant to your own experience. Whether you want to focus on a specific age group or work on a particular leadership skill, there will be options. 

 Although my needs my change between now and OT20 and therefore I might need to make changes to my own selections, here are the breakout options I have selected for this year’s conference:

  • Respond To The LGBTQ Reality 
  • Responding To Kids With Anxiety And Depression
  • Keys To Developing Other Leaders
  • Successfully Launching Your First Or Next Campus

Sort through your options today and customize a learning experience so you get the most out of this year’s conference. And if you’re up for it, drop a comment and let me know what you have selected for yourself this year!

Orange Small Group Leader Resource Reviews and Giveaways

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To Enter To Win: https://kingsumo.com/g/tuoom3/small-group-leader-resource-giveaway 

As you look back on this past year, what has changed in your ministry? If you’re not intentional, you can easily drift into bad habits and ineffective ministry. If you want this new year to be an opportunity to intentionally recharge and redirect you and your leaders, here are two books to set you in the right direction. 

When Relationships Matter – Make your church a place where kids and teenagers belong. 

Before kids and teenagers can wrestle with abstract concepts like faith, hope, and the meaning of life, they need to know who loves them and where they belong. When Relationships Matter explores three values and nine practices that will help you create and improve your small group strategy. 

If you want to measure the success of your weekly experiences for kids and teenagers, you need to ask two questions. Are kids connected? Are they known? Research shows that kids who have five or more adults who invest in their faith over time have a greater chance of having a mobilized faith. When relationships matter, everything changes.

“The best way to help kids know God is to connect them with someone who knows God.” – Reggie Joiner

“We have to go out of our way to create a culture in which it’s safe for kids and students to ask hard questions about faith.” – Tom Shefchunas 

“Never sacrifice the next generation on the altar of your past methods and preferences.” – Reggie Joiner

“If you want to fight for everyday, authentic faith in the next generation, you need to support the relationships that matter most.” – Kristen Ivy

Check out When Relationships Matter, the newest release for leaders of small group leaders from Orange. Visit https://whenrelationshipsmatterbook.com to download a sample (plus some FREE RESOURCES).

 

Lead Small – Five big ideas every small group leader needs to know.

Lead Small clarifies the role and responsibilities of the small group leader who works with children and teenagers. It explains five proven strategies you can use to lead your small group well:

• BE PRESENT . . . so you can connect your kids’ faith to a community

• CREATE A SAFE PLACE . . . to clarify their faith as they grow

• PARTNER WITH PARENTS . . . to nurture an everyday faith in kids

• MAKE IT PERSONAL . . . to inspire their faith by your example

• MOVE THEM OUT . . . to engage their faith in a bigger story

“When we lead small we simply make a choice to invest strategically in the lives of a few over time so we can help them build an authentic faith.”

“If you are simply trying to instill faith and morals for the sake of your few, but it’s not a personal priority, they’ll eventually catch on.”

“A child will never feel significant until you give them something significant to do.”

“Your few are not problems to be solved. They are people to be loved.”

Check out Lead Small, a must-read for every small group leader. Visit http://www.leadsmallbook.com to download a self-evaluation guide to see how you are currently partnering with parents and a next step build to build a stronger partnership. 

To Enter To Win: https://kingsumo.com/g/tuoom3/small-group-leader-resource-giveaway 

Orange Tour 2019 Notes #OT19

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Learn together, lead together. 

Kristen Ivey – @Kristen_Ivy

Maybe: Personal is the opposite of shallow. 

Literal opposite of shallow, deep. We underline and filter for Instagram. 

A better alternative than becoming deeper is to become personal. 

Shallow is fast, dismissive, safe, and costs money. 

Personal takes risks, is interested, risky, and costs me. 

Do we offer shallow hope? Do we preach shallow truth? 

Move out of the shallow by: 

You can’t stop being shallow unless you learn to see someone. Andy Blessed are your eyes because they see. 

Nobody needs to be seen by everyone but everybody needs somebody who sees them. Including you.

You can’t stop being shallow unless you let someone see you. 

God allows you and calls you to be part of His mission even as He sees who you really are. 

Allow someone in your lives to see you. You need someone to know you fully. 

Think about a kid or teenager in your community who you are showing up to make it personal for. Write down their name. 

Who is it that really sees you? Who are you personal with and open fully up to? 

Andy Gullahorn – Teenagers – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ak5mCNEW9pI

Ryan Leak @ryanleak 

We are grateful for resurrection Jesus but the Jesus that perplexes me the most is wearing Jesus. 

John 11:33-35 ESV

Jesus, the man with all the power and all the answers, felt their pain before he tried to heal their pain. He didn’t let knowing how the story would end to change making it personal. 

Sympathy: Seeing someone else’s pain. I feel bad for you.

Empathy: Feeling someone else’s pain. I feel bad with you. 

What used to be an honor to help someone, the longer you help people, it moves from an honor to annoying. It starts to feel like an inconvenience.  We get there by losing our compassion. Here’s 3 ways how to get it back.

1. Prioritize. People over plans. 

People remember what we show up for than what we plan. Be more of a minister than an event planner. 

Inc Magazine asked top executives if they could name their priorities. 2% could. 

We have to beware of spending the majority of our time on things only the minority will even remember. 

There should be somebody that it’s personal. I can’t do it for everybody but I can do it for Fred. I can’t spend 15k on breakfast for everyone but I can for Fred. 

2. Stay in close proximity to people in pain. 

You can tell when a communicator is talking about people from a distance. A distance in time or proximity. 

Whenever it becomes personal, issues get humanized and we give way more grace to other than we would have if we had been distant. It’s easy to take shots at people from a distance. Be slow to take a stand against people we’ve never sat with. 

“When I see pictures of tragedy, don’t let it get old to me.” – Kristi Northup, Christian Artist

3. Have patience with ask holes. 

Ask Hole: “A person who repeatedly asks you for advice and continues to do the exact opposite of what you told them to do.”

At one point we were giving people amazing grace and now we say, “You should know better.” Extend the same grace you gave the first day you met them. God extends this amazing grace to us time and time again. 

Where would we all be if the people along our journey gave up on us when they should have? 

Make up your mind now to not give up on them. 

Ryan stepped down from the executive position because he felt like an in house lawyer who does event planning.

Remember why you do what you do and ask God to show you if you need to make an adjustment. 

 

Reggie Joiner – @reggiejoiner  

What if we just decided that everybody needs somebody who sees them how Jesus sees them? 

The way you see somebody changes more than you could ever imagine it would change. 

It changed the way Zacchaeus saw Zacchaeus. The way you see a kid can change the way he sees himself forever. 

It changed the way the town saw Zacchaeus. You can change the way the church sees kids. 

It changes what we do for them. When we see them the way Jesus sees them it will change how we treat them.

Everybody needs somebody who knows them personally. Show up on the front lines and get to know them personally. What Jesus did that day was He pulled Zacchaeus out of the crowd. There are things you can’t do in the crowd of your ministry. You need to pull them out of the crowd and meet them personally. Jesus had a plan and strategy and was on His way to Jerusalem to celebrate the Passover to eventually save the world but He stoped to make it personal.  Don’t get so busy in ministry that you forget to stop and help the person right in front of us. Stop and see if there is a kid in the tree in need of your attention. 

You can’t really be personal with a crowd. You can only be personal with a person. What does it look like to stop?

How personal are you willing to be with people? How much are you willing to challenge the crowd of your church to make it personal? Getting personal is harder. 

The crisis of faith of young people walking away from the faith will not be resolved in a crowd or by a presentation. It will only be resolved when we show up on a personal level. This generation feels ignored and we need to pull them out of the crowd and make it personal. 

Give every kid someone who will know them personally. 

Discipleship requires a consistent experience with a caring leader. 

Zacchaeus climbed the tree not only because he needed someone to believe in but also someone to believe in him. 

Everyone needs somebody to believe they can change. 

“Today, salvation has come to your house.”

Identity Belonging Purpose

Do you know my name? 

The gospel gives us the hope of transformation. 

People get up in the morning with the attitude of nobody can really change or anybody can radically change. You pick every day. 

If there is ever a voice in your head that says you are wasting your time with a kid or teenager remember the story of Zacchaeus. 

Start living the kind of life that will give people hope. Dare people to imagine a different version of themselves. It can actually happen because of the transformation power of Jesus. Give hope to a generation that is discouraged. 

One of the most powerful things you can hand to a generation is the idea of hope. 

Build a social media strategy that’s personal – Dave Adamson @aussiedave

Social media is the most effective and efficient way to make connections inside and outside the walls of our church. 

Online environments are where students are learning about society, sexuality, and spirituality. 

Use social media to enhance relationships. 

Social Media Stats 2019

More than 97% of U.S. teenagers use some form of social media daily. 

85% of students use YouTube every day

67% of teens believe they can learn anything they need to know about life from YouTube. 

Over 3M videos are viewed on YouTube every minute

More than 4 billion photos are liked on Instagram ever day. 

From fixing their car to fixing their marriage. This generation goes to YouTube for the answers to life’s questions. 

Paul used the technology of his day to connect people to God and to each other. Letter writing. 

We need to use social media to connect people with each other, and with God.

In our connected world, being personal is different. 

Connect for the other 167 hours. 

Tip 1: Know People’s Names

We track reach, names, and flowers but not how many people we are following. 

Greet people by name and follow them back and welcome them by name. 

Numbers matter because people count. 

Telephone vs megaphone. 

Start talking with your followers. Let them know we see them. Respond by name. 

“We see you”

What if you responded more than you posted? 

Put people ahead of posts. 

Tip 2: Know what matters to the people in your church. 

People use social media to post about what matters to them. 

Re-post and celebrate with people. 

Comment that we hope you have a fantastic time. Stop just talking about yourself. 

One benefit is the reward of the algorithm. When you post and comment on other people the algorithm rewards you.

When people feel like they are connect to you online they feel like they belong offline. 

Building community is greater than broadcast content. 

Tip 3: Know where the students and adults in community live online. 

If you want to connect with parents use Facebook. If you want to connect with kids use YouTube and TikTok.

Follow your students and comment on their posts, this is like you visiting their house. 

Have boundaries in place. Have multiple people who can comment on posts. Consider initials of who response. 

Tip 4: Know what they have done. 

What are they facing? What are they going through? 

People are more connected than ever before yet experiencing more disconnection than ever before. 46% of people in the U.S. feel alone. Those who feel most alone are GenZ. 

Everyone needs to be known by someone. Listen more than you post. 

What would it look like if you responded more than you posted? 

Tip 5: Know what they can do.

Self promotion vs what’s important to other people and what they have done. 

Church tracking software. What if we leveraged this for a different purpose. Celebrate 50 year wedding anniversary. 

What if you called out: Volunteer of the week. 

“God promotes the lives of those who promote the lives of others.” Brian Houston. And so does Mark Zuckerberg. 

Be high tech and high touch. 

Churches using LinkedIn

YouTube and Instagram or YouTube and TikTok. 

SproutSocial or Buffer 

3 essentials to follow: Need a photo, Don’t use profanity, no pornography. 

Crisis Escalation strategy – With the 3 hurts. 

TikTok. We might not like what we see there (like a skate park back in the day). Be light in the world. 

Leverage social to connect and train leaders. 

Instagram account for volunteers. Film helpful things for the Sunday lesson.  

Notification for a group. Post on Friday. Repost on Saturday. 

End service by saying, “Thank you for being part of our church today. We will see you during the week on social media.”

Sam Collier @samcollier

You can’t talk to old people that way.

Sometimes you just have to get out of the way. 

You’re not allowed to teach your wife anything. 

How do you treat the people in your inner circle? Your job isn’t to teach, it’s to love. What are your blind spots? Something negative you do that impacts other people or you that you don’t see. 

The way you fix your blind spots is to get personal and invite someone in. 

Don’t get so focused on your public image that you miss your personal issues. 

Do you know what matters to me?

Fun leads to trust and trust leads to depth. 

Tell me more…

Don’t dismiss what’s important to the next generation. If it matters to them, it matters. 

The relationship changes when you are interested in what they are interested in. 

Do you know where I live?

Step into their world. 

You can’t show up if you don’t know where they live. 

Know their generational, geological, or cultural context. 

Walk towards the mess. It might require more than we are willing to give and that’s okay. 

“I can’t understand why anyone would…” is a cautionary flag. A confession that you don’t understand another person. 

One of the best things we can do to be more culturally aware is to pause long enough to understand how someone else thinks.

It’s much better to offend someone with your presence rather than with your absence. @GeraldFadayomi 

You can’t out produce culture but culture can’t put relationship you. 

You might not be personal enough…

If your budget more on production than people. 

If there is. I plan to follow up with those who are missing. 

If parents don’t know what you talked with their kids about this week. 

If you don’t know which of your kids parents don’t come to church. 

If parents or volunteers don’t know who they should talk to when they have a problem. 

If adults are standing in the back watching kids. 

If you don’t connect with your volunteers throughout the week. 

If you don’t know how your students and kids need you to pray for them. 

If there’s not a lot of laughter happening in your environments. (Fun communicates you like them) the joy of the Lord is our strength. How strong is your ministry? 

If there’s not an intentional plan to reconnect at every phase. 

If your team didn’t talk about how to make it more personal this week. 

What if we measured success by how personal the ministry is? 

Dan Scott – Design a preteen ministry @danscott77

We were all preteens once. We went through that awkward phase we wish we could forget. 

Put yourself in their shoes and navigate the world through their eyes. 

Why preteens matter: 

We pay attention to the seniors walking away from the church but that decision is made in the preteen years. 

There are 23 million preteens in 2020! Navigate a brand new world that is very different than ours. 

They are navigating a unique transition. Not a straight line of childhood navigation. Our ministries help them transition into and out of the preteen phase. This is the first one they have an active role in how they transition. They are very aware that life is crazy and we help them navigate it. 

Embrace the preschool, engage the elementary, affirm the middle schooler, and mobilize the high schooler. Preteens sometimes are thinking like a scientist and other times are thinking like an engineer. And they have no control over which brain will show up at any given moment. 

The magic age of 11. 

From the start of their birth to about second grade they are thinking a certain way. Around 8-9 years old everything tapers off. They are old enough to do really cool things but not snarky. Then at age 11, they change. They begin to smell, become rude, and don’t want to do anything. The scan of a 11 year old brain is the same as a 3 year old. Cognitive pruning. The brain getting rid of everything it doesn’t need to make room for what it does need for adulthood. Preteens are literally losing their minds. They have had many moments that need brain power so they lose some areas of memory. 

Environment

Does your environment communicate that kids know they are liked? Is this a place for me? 

Make it unique, a space of their own. If you can’t make a room, maybe create a VIP area for just the 4th and 5th graders. The 3rd graders will build anticipation for what’s next and the preteens will feel like they have a place to belong. Will they be in the same environment for 6 years? If nothing changes in their environment, will they think the church is just for the kindergartner?

Make it Uniques

A space of their own. 

An experience of their own.  

If you can’t make a space, at least give them an experience of their own. A camp, a service project, something for them to look forward to. 

When kids get to ___ grade, they get to ___. Worship track, track without vocals, small band, full band. Where do you need to make a compromised for the sake of the kids journey? Use environments to build anticipation for what’s next. 

Get your student pastor to teach in the kids environment to champion what’s coming next. 

Make it Relevant

It’s not bells and whistles, it’s connecting it to the matter at hand. God’s word connects to today. They can’t always and consistently make this connection on their own. If it’s 2019 outside of the church walls, it should look like 2019 inside the church walls. 

How does your room or stage change? 

How does your music and preservice music change? 

Do your kids walk into the environment and feel at home?

Make it Safe

Physical safe – exits and entrances, background checks, etc. 

Emotionally safe. According to the CDC, the leading cause of death 11-15 is suicide.

We need environments that are relatable and relational. Kids need a safe place to be known and to belong. 

Programming:

Curriculum Strategy – your job is to build relationships and not to spend 90% of your time writing. 

What you’re teaching and how your teaching. 

Teach preteens in a way that…

-Builds critical thinking skills. The device in their pocket has more information than the library. Help students discern what to click on. 6 million hits where the top 5 pay google to be the top 5. 

-Develops EQ and empathy. Help students see the world through another persons point of view. Preteens are moving from concrete to abstract thinking. Know what you are saying when you say, “invite Jesus into your heart.” Consider the Bible story of Noah and then they realize this is the time where millions of people died. No longer a happy story of animals but of the death of almost everything. Hopefully, your church can be the safest place where kids can ask a question about faith. You can ask any question you want here. When they ask a hard question, they are testing to see if they can ask you a harder question. 

Format – Average attendance is between 25-40%. If there’s a different person every time they show up with they develop a relationship with someone they trust? We have to be consistent because they are not consistent. Small group and large group are important. Preteens are really bad at discussion questions, sometimes. Help small group leaders to lead with a question that frames what the students are to be thinking about. 

Events – Preteens are very capable, don’t treat them like little kids. Elevate what you allow them to do and how they can be the body of Christ. 

Volunteers: 

Roles to fill – first, small group leaders. Large group communicator is the last one to get because small group can not be done by a video. 

Recruitment – Don’t just get anybody. It needs to be the right person on the right bus. 

Training. Show how kids are learning. 

Cast vision of what’s most important. For kids to have a caring adult that points them to their creator. Cast vision for what you want. 

Parents:

Partner with parents in a way that acknowledges their day-to-day world.

The ideal time for your event isn’t 5:00, but 7 or 8:00 and with food. Know what the real world looks like in the lives of your families. 

Kristen Ivey

If you don’t continue to make it personal to someone you will lose your compassion and you will burn out. You will forget what you do matters. 

What we do is not who we are. Don’t form your identity around sin. 

Shame: The intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging. 

Shame might be the greatest tool the enemy has in his arsenal. 

God says you have purpose, shame says you aren’t good enough. 

Do you know what I’ve done? Jesus didn’t go to Zacchaeus house and say he was a good guy. Jesus knew what Zacchaeus had done and went to his house anyway. Jesus broke the shame cycle. When kids believe they are unloveable they try to prove it. 

Shame is a shallow motivator. Love is a powerful motivator. Love heals us from the inside. 

When a kid gets brave enough to share their story, the are rarely sharing the full story but testing the waters. 

Are you a safe enough place for a student to open up and share and still feel loved. 

Can we replace their shame with hope? 

“Love someone in a way that replaces shame with hope.”

Gerald Fadayomi @geraldfadayomi

Do you know what I can do? 

Potential. 

You know what a preschooler can do when you leave the room for 30 seconds. 

You know what a teenager can do when you leave them alone with their girlfriend. 

Jesus knew Peter’s story and his potential. 

He knew he would fail but also become a fisher of men. He speaks to Peter’s potential. 

Jesus get’s in the boat. Getting in the boat means showing up in their world. 

Spending less time trying to get students to show up in our church and more time trying to get volunteers to show up in their world. 

Speak to their need. Jesus gave fish. How about we teach their worth doesn’t come from instagram likes. Show them what it means to be a person who lives out integrity. Maybe they need someone to show them their worth. 

Call them to more. Not just fisherman but fishers of men. Do this for every student and every child. 

Imagine how this would change the world to make it personal? You can’t to this for everyone but you can do this for one. 

Pick a person, and make it personal.

Reggie Joiner @reggiejoiner

Everyone falls short of the glory of God. What would it look like if we recognized the potential in every human? What if we cared about the potential of every kid more than Disney? 

When you stop for one, it always impacts more than one. 

There is a ripple effect. Jesus knew that when He stopped for Zacchaeus it would impact more than one. It would impact Zacchaeus’ family, the people they impact, and the people who are watching those people. 

If you want to teach a generation then do for one. Demonstrate real friendship to one. You can’t just teach a generation how to love, you have to show them how to love.

If you never stop at the tree, you’ll never know what the story could have been. You’ll never know the potential. 

 

5 Reasons Why Orange Conference is for Your Whole Team

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You have probably seen the stats and know there is a generation walking away from the church. Your whole team needs to come together and join in a fresh conversation about what disciple-making looks like in the future of the church! This year’s Orange Conference is the opportunity you need and here are 5 reasons your whole team needs to be there!

BREAKOUTS DESIGNED TO ALIGN YOUR TEAM.

If you are a preschool ministry leader you will find breakouts designed specifically for preschool ministry that teach the same concepts and truths being taught in elementary or high school ministry breakouts. Your team can then come together to discuss one general concept while each team member brings their specialized insight. Instead of walking away from a conference with dozens of competing ideas, your team will walk away with the momentum of moving the same direction. 

LOWER COSTS TO YOUR CHURCH. 

Four separate rental cars, heading four different directions, being parked in four different hotel parking lots is hard on any budget. What if those four people came together and shared the cost? Attending a conference as a team is a great way to squeeze every drop out of your ministry budget. This year, my team is even talking about tailgating lunches to have more time together and save even more money.  

APPLY WHAT YOU LEARN. 

It’s so easy to listen to a podcast, think about how great the ideas are, and do nothing with the information. When your team comes together and you share in the ideas together, it creates a layer of accountability to apply what you learn. As you talk about your sessions together you will also find your retention increases. 

ALIGN LEADERS WITH A COMMON LANGUAGE AND STRATEGY. 

I love the way Amos 3:3 says it, “Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?” When your team comes together to grow and learn you can walk away heading the same direction. Your team will begin to measure success using the same yardstick and you will know when your team is winning. 

If culture is the soul of your organization, the Orange Conference is the soul care your team desires. Sign up now to get the best rate on Orange Conference 2020 and my team will see your team there! 

It’s Personal AND Starting Now Book Reviews and Giveaways

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5 Questions You Should Answer to Give Every Child and Teenager Hope

What if knowing the answers to five simple questions could give a kid hope? Orange has released a new book called “It’s Personal”, for leaders and volunteers, exploring those five questions through the lens of Zacchaeus’ encounter with Jesus.

In a generation where too many kids feel invisible and ignored, you may be the best chance a kid has to really feel known. 

“Jesus never got so busy trying to save everyone that He didn’t stop to help someone.” – Reggie Joiner

Jesus was on the most important mission anyone has ever been called to yet he stopped to talk with a tax collector and shared a meal in his house. This book has helped me to slow down and love people how Jesus loves people. Jump in a hammock, open the book and allow Jesus to convict you on how you might be approaching ministry.

For a FREE sample: https://thnkor.ng/ItsPersonal

To enter to win a copy: https://kingsumo.com/g/3tttyr/its-personal-starting-now-giveaway 

Find it on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2Tl6Scy 

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Starting Now: A 30-Day Guide to Becoming Who You Want to Be in College

College is hard. This book can help. Give the incoming college freshman in your life this guide to help them become WHO they want to be after high school.

In college they’re not kids, but they’re not quite adults, either. They still need guidance and support as they navigate the tricky transition to adulthood. Be on their team!

“Becoming WHO you want to be is something you can make a decision to do every. single. day.” – StartingNow

Even attending a Christian University while knowing my calling was hard. I can’t even imagine trying to figure things out in this day and age. Starting Now is a devotional every college student needs as they step out and begin this new journey!

For a FREE sample: http://bit.ly/2XSfRY7

To enter to win a copy: https://kingsumo.com/g/3tttyr/its-personal-starting-now-giveaway 

Find it on Amazon: https://amzn.to/31vkswK

#ItsPersonal #StartingNow #thinkorange #leadsmall #leadership #kidmin #youthmin

How to Make Your SGL Training Unforgettable

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Your small group leaders are busy. You’re busy. And the job that God calls us to as leaders in the church requires us to be ready and to lead well. 

It can be difficult to know precisely how to give leaders what they are needing. What if there was an affordable option where you could bring every small group leader in your ministry to a night of fun and training? 

Lead Small Night is where your SGL’s can talk leader-to-leader about the practical ways to impact the lives of kids and students at every phase. 

At Lead Small Night, you’ll learn:

  • How to help every kid and teenager feel known
  • How to lead better conversations with kids and teenagers
  • How to implement the Lead Small Principles that help you become a successful small group leader
  • How to do something small in order to make a big impact

Lead Small Night is a two-hour event that takes place across the country prior to the Orange Tour. 

For only $25 per person, you can help small group leaders do small group better. Sign up now! https://orangetour.org/leadsmallnight/ 

It’s Personal Session Notes #OC19

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It’s personal when everyone who shows up cares about the faith of every kid.

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Everything in your church changes when relationships matter. 

Tom Shefchunas @Coachshef 

#tweetablejustnottrue

His church moves on through broken organizations and people.

Book: When Relationships Matter

If small groups become your primary answer, then that ultimate changes everything you do…eventually

Look at your checkbook and calendar. What does that reflect on your goal? Do you do a full message or set small group leaders up to have relationships. 

“At OC19, a MINISTRY PROOF is an exercise to prove a complex strategic statement by using self-evident, obvious, and “amenable” truths stacked together like Legos.”

My ministry has an effect on a kid who is not involved in ministry. 

One of the worse strategies is losing a kid who is in my ministry. 

I need to PERSONALLY pay attention to who is leaving my ministry. 

Some kids have to leave my ministry. (Move, 

Some kids/students/families choose to leave my ministry. 

As a steward of my ministry, I should find out why. 

It’s harder to leave people than a program. 

The more connected a kid/student is to a person (or people) at church the better chance we have to keep them. 

I personally can’t connect deeply enough to all my kids/students and I need people to help me. 

High-quality Christians make high-quality connections. 

The higher quality connections we make the more we can do for kids as and their faith. 

The best way to communicate and nurture the core aspects of our faith is within the context of a strong relationship. (AKA: Discipleship)

My primary goal needs to be to MAKE RELATIONSHIPS MATTER MORE. 

I need to leverage every resource I have to ensure that kids have quality relationships and that those relationships grow. 

I’ve got some things I need to change. 

If small groups become the primary answer, then that ultimately changes everything you do.

When we go “all in” on quality long-term groups – not only will it change everything you do – groups will become your answer to almost everything. 

I need to PERSONALLY pay attention to who is leaving my ministry. 

People leave ministry not people…harness the power of small groups. 

Text “imin” to 404.445.2198

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Do you know my name? 

Crystal Chiang @CrystalcChiang

Knowing someone’s name lets them know that they matter. 

Kids are always in a crowd, they just want to be seen. 

You know what’s it’s like when the barista gets your name right. 

You know what it feels like when a teacher takes the time to learn how to say your name…or when they don’t. 

When you get to know their name, you get the right to know more than their name. 

Who will know their name next? 

After high school, someone needs to know their name. We know what’s next and point them to what’s next. 

If we were honest though, it’s a long way from here to there. It’s a long way from now to what’s next. From high school ministry to college ministry. 

What happens when nobody knows their name? 

There are going to be days where they will wonder if the family of God is still a family for them. 

If stats are true we will lose 7 out of 10 in the transition from here to there. 

You might graduate from this roaster but you can’t graduation from this relationship.

I wonder what would happen if we stopped points towards and started walking with?

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Seen People See People

“There is a skill in learning to be present.” -Reggie Joiner

“No one person can no every person’s name in our ministry…Multiply the impact so every person can be seen.” Kara Powell

“What if we could recruit leaders who see the kids sitting on the back row. To see the kids who are so infrequently seen.” Kristen Ivey

Concept: If you give a popular kid 100% attention, he will feel 10% but if you give the unpopular kid that half that they usually feel it 100%

“The church should be different and not reinforcing the hierarchy.” Kara Powell

“Business is the enemy of spirituality.”

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Hear the voice of those who are not being heard. 

Danielle Strickland @djstrickland 

The desire in God’s heart is for connection.

There’s a divine strategy called ‘personal.’

What will you do with the king of Israel? Kiss the Son. Psalm 2

What am I going to do with the bigness? The magnitude? What am I going to do? I’m going to send a little baby and this personal shift will change everything. 

God has a name, love has a name. This proximity is a divine strategy. 

The desire in God’s heart is for connection.

He is no longer a slave to you, he is your brother. 

Tackle massive issues with the relationship. 

How do you perpetuate slavery if your brothers with the slave? Proximity changes everything. 

Sometimes you need to know their names. 

Moses and Elijah disappear and there is only Jesus.

Jesus goes down off the mountain of transfiguration and he encounters a father with a son in pain. Jesus said to bring the boy to me. If you had faith the size of the mustard seed tells the mountain to move. 

“You want to move something big, do something small.” Danielle Strickland

You want to actually change sexual slavery, why don’t you admit your porn addiction and get some help.

You want to dismantle slavery, be a brother.

If you want to do these massive things, then make it personal. Mustard seed faith, something small to change something big. 

First, you need to know their name, and then they need to know their names. You’re the one to tell them and it can change everything. 

Flowers were meant to bloom. What are the odds that her street name would

“I’m not a very good singer but I’ve never killed anyone before.”

Stop trying to move the mountain start using the mustard seed. That name, that relationship, that proximity will change everything. 

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Helping parents know they measure up

Kara Powell @KPowellFYI

The “Not Enough Monster”

The church tells us that we should be discipling our children, and we agree, but we don’t know how to do that. 

We feel overwhelmed, we don’t know where to start, so we do nothing. 

The not enough monster multiples. We call this shame. 

Guilt is feeling bad about what we do. Shame is about feeling bad about who we are.

This then affects our kids, and they began to not feel enough. Not strong enough, not brave enough, not spiritual enough. 

The rising rates of suicide, anxiety, and depression. Social media and technology show us all the ways we do not measure up. 

Before you would hear about the part you missed after the weekend. Now they see it unfolding in real time on social media without them. 

There is no better place to deflate the Not Enough monster than the church. 

They are enough, you are enough because Jesus makes us enough. Jesus transforms us. 

We are enough because Jesus makes us enough. This is good news. Parents should be flocking to us in the church. They should be hungry for the parent seminars but that’s not your experience. 

How do you reach the other 80%

4 of the ages of phases when parents most need to know they are enough because Jesus is enough: 6, 13, 18, 23 (these are the trapeze ages where they are in the air for the next phase). 

Ages 6: Kindergarten phase. 

New schedule, new school, new social opportunities, new sports. Juggling a lot of balls and feel bad when they drop balls and make mistakes. The church can come alongside them and let them know blowing a scheduled playdate is not a big deal. Even if it was a mistake, Jesus is bigger than our mistakes. 

Age 13

The average parent feels behind their teen when it comes to technology because they are. We can let parents know they are enough. You don’t have to be paranoid but you can be prudent. 

Age 18

As a parent, you see a clock in your mind at all time. Wonder if you’re doing enough to help navigate the new opportunities and new temptations. Wonder if you’ve been enough of a parent since birth to set them up on the best trajectory. Some parents will get smaller and withdraw saying it’s too late now. Other’s get big and try to control. To turn to parent into a project and make a lot of lists. Better laundry skills. Need the church to remind me that I am enough because Jesus makes me enough. 

Age 23

New independence. Vocational, relations and spiritual choices. Parents are proud but some are not so quick to brag. Some drop out of school, get debt, move back home. The relationship they dreamed of is not materializing. They text but don’t hear back. We as the church can come alongside the family and let them know the chapter is choppy but God is not done with the families story yet, you are enough because Jesus makes us enough. 

Youth leaders don’t feel enough. Feel unqualified to offer resources and feel like we are guessing. 

Text “with” to 66866 for free resources for parents. 

Every parent and every person needs from you to remind them you are enough because Jesus makes you enough. 

The really good news is that Jesus is actually more than enough. Kara Powell

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Do you know where I live?

Carlos Whittaker @loswhit

Physically: Absolutely but more than that. 

Do you know where I live…

Physically, culturally, socially, emotionally

Jesus never ministered from a distance. 

We get to come around those we are ministering to, step in their homes, and get more personal with them. The more personal it gets the messier it gets. The more personal we get, the more holy it gets. 

It’s okay that you don’t look like everyone else, just hold my hand and everyone will know you belong. 

When we know where they live, they will open their hands. 

When we know their name, it opens their hearts. But when we know where they live, they will open their hands.

When you get personal, it gets risky. It takes a risk in order to rescue.

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Knowing me means knowing my context

Karl Vaters @KarlVaters 

Book: The Grasshopper Myth

If I took numbers off the table, would I call my church a healthy church? 

We seem like grasshoppers in our own eyes. 

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

Influence is about leveraging small things. Influence is the new attendance.

#1 reason churches are growing, “The paster knows my name.” 

They want to be pastored by their pastor. 

Healthy large churches are pushing small groups and ministry teams because that’s where pastoring will get done. 

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Dr. Bernese King

@BerniceKing

How do we as leaders experience the everyday context of other people and develop empathy? -Reggie

Intentionality. You have to be intentional about connecting with people whose stories you don’t know. 

It’s really about following Jesus, for real.

Jesus dared to connect with people when it was prohibited. 

Compassion pushes you to what to do something, but not doing something first without understanding. 

Dare to take risks, even where it becomes uncomfortable. 

We have to look in the mirror and examine our own prejudices and seek to rid ourselves of them.

We need each other. We have to learn how to create a real relationship with brothers and sisters even when we don’t agree with each other.

The next generation isn’t bringing a lot of the biases that we had!

Light belongs where darkness is so there is no more darkness.

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When it’s personal to you

Doug Fields @DougFields ‏

When parenting became personal, it actually became more important to my ministry.

Leadership ultimately becomes powerful when your ministry becomes personal.

In our Christian subculture leaders ultimately becomes powerful when you build your platform, launch a podcast, go multi-site, or draw a crowd. 

Personal doesn’t happen from a distance. 

Jesus and the woman with an issue of blood.

Jesus turns his back on the crowd to care for one. The good shepherd will leave the 99 for the one. It seems outrageous until you’re the one. 

At this moment, Jesus makes eye contact and it becomes personal. The crowd was put on mute and she became the center of attention. 

Jesus called her “Daughter” making her feel like somebody. 

When leadership goes personal it restores confidence. 

The only one who could have thrown a stone didn’t pick one up. 

Ministry is messy. And sometimes the most beautiful and courageous kind of leadership is when we leave the crowd for the one.

What if our greatest ministry is not to more? What if it’s not about numbers. Jesus hung out with 12. What if the greatest leadership asset you have is to stop your world and love someone personally? 

Someone somewhere in your world is always in some type of pain.

Leadership ultimately becomes powerful when your ministry becomes personal.

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What you don’t know can hurt you.

Sam Collier @SamCollier

I haven’t always been self-aware, but at least I’m self-aware about not always having been self-aware.

3 lessons to help me grow and be a better leader.

1. You can’t talk to old people that way.

Has anyone ever gone to a debrief meeting ready to ‘say something?

2. Sometimes you just have to get out of the way. 

Don’t let your ego get in the way of someone else’s potential

3. You’re not allowed to teach your wife anything.

Blindspot: Something negative that you do that impacts other people or you that you don’t see. What are your blind spots? 

Don’t get so focused on your public image that you miss your personal issues.

Next Step:
Write down your blindspots.
Ask two leaders to speak into this. 

Dr. Deborah Tillman @DeborahLTillman

Connection really matters. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.

Connect before you go in there and try to correct.

God had called me to have a mindset to mend them, heart to love them, spirit to serve them.

Families need encouragement. You’ll never really know what your hug will do. 

People really need to know and feel that they are enough. So many people feel guilty and laced with fear and doubt and shame.

Stop building walls and start building bridges. 

“All of our families have a complexity that the church needs to help you navigate.” Dan Scott 

No more hiding in church.

Clay Scroggins @clayscroggins

Do you look back on a season in your life and think, ‘That’s when God was really using me?

My biggest fear going into ministry was that I would spend all of my time around Christians. 

Make it better. 

Take it personal. 

The longer we are in ministry the longer we drift into making it better and further away from taking it personally. 

How can we get these people to show up in the lives of all the people outside of the building? 

The world gets bigger when you begin to see more of the world. 

You’ll never change the way the community sees the church until you change the way the church sees the community.

What could we do to start understanding the people outside our building?

You take it personally when your connection with someone becomes personal.

The man let down through the roof. They didn’t give up. They didn’t turn down. 

“Turn down for what”

For what would you turn down? What cause? Nothing. Nothing would cause me to turn down. 

Mark 2:5 Jesus was moved not by what they believed but by what they did based on what they believed. 

That’s not our correlate missing. That is MY mission. 

Quick asking for likes and get your church to go and like other people’s posts. It’s not all about praying for the people inside our church it’s about going out and knowing what to pray for in our community. 

“If our goal is to be the hope for the world, we’ve got to stop hiding in our church.”

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Do you know what matters to me?

David Salyers @davidgsalyers

The difference between wisdom and knowledge. It’s not about what you know. This creates a culture of proving yourself. 

Knowledge is what we know, proving. Wisdom creates a culture of improving. 

Second-mile service is giving what people don’t expect.

Now we are more known for our services than our food. 

Our mission: To improve the story of the people we do business with. 

Prove it and Improve it.

Daddy Daughter Date Night. 99cent meals are great. Handwritten notes from your daughter are priceless. 

Do you know what I can do?

Gerald Fadayomi @GeraldFadayomi

This speaks to potential.

Do you know what I can do? I know that you are capable of and it’s so much more.

We love that lightbulb moment in the lives of a student where they realize what they can do because of the potential God placed in them.

Get out of our context and into their world. Show up at their game, in the school, in their Monday through Saturday.

What if we spent less time trying to get teenagers to show up in our church and instead trained small group leaders to show up in their lives.

We often speak into what we think students need and not into what they actually need.

They need positive attention.

What if we spent more time trying to get the student to show up to the church and spent more time getting volunteers to show up in their lives?

So often we speak to what we think students need and not to what they actually need.

Maybe they need someone to understand their identity so they don’t trade a part of themselves for something that won’t last.

Students will do more when they are invited to do more.

What would happen if we stopped doing ministry for students and started doing ministry with students?

Everybody Always

Bob Goff @bobgoff

If you get advice that rhymes, run! In order to give words of advice, you need to know scripture.

God needs people who know Scripture and will be available to people and speak to them in love.

The power of availability
If we’re going to be available we need to know why we are doing it. Why we do what we do.

If you’re leading young people for an applause join the circus.

Satan doesn’t need to destroy, he just needs to distract. You don’t want anything to distract you from Jesus.

You don’t want anything distracting you from Jesus. If this job ever gets between me and Jesus or me and you, I resign.

Don’t make people projects. People are people.

We ought to talk about people behind their back all the time. We just need to be talking about the right stuff.

You want to dazzle Jesus? Go be you.

If you’re messing up, don’t have a bible study, stop.

The world is full of crazy people, and guess what, you’re one of them.

You see a fin in the water…is it a dolphin or a shark?

It’s going to take a courage laden with faith and laden with obedience.

“Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.” Hebrews 11:1 NIV

There’s something beautiful that happens when you get personal.

Make it personal with your family.
Bob buried a note to his unborn daughter forgiving her of wrecking the car.

Your inheritance is my friends. I don’t tell them what to do, I tell them who they are.

The thing about marble so special and unique is what makes it the weakest. The thing that makes me unique, can also be my weakest point. We need to bring it back to Jesus.

“Coffee drinks me to wake up.”

The anchor room is as big as the engine room. Let that sink in.

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” Hebrews 12:1-2

Be available to people and let them know why we do what we do.

Give us the guts and the grace to be your people.

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For resources and slides check out iamnextgen.com

Maximizing My Time as a NextGen Pastor 

Gina McClain @gina_mcclain
http://www.ginamcclain.com

Year one it’s new. Year 2 you built some equity. Year 3 some things you can’t get passed but need to deal with. Something in you needs to change. 

Relational challenge and in year 3 you wonder if you’re cut out for the position. Year 4 looking around because you wonder if something else would fit better? 

Tend to redefine ourselves as leaders every 4 years. 

“Your role as NextGen leader has more to do with WHO you are than WHAT you do. And who you are, has to do with what God is doing.”

#1 Know Your First Team

Peers vs. Direct-reports

Your teams need different things from you. You could be booths on the group, leading ministry directly. 

What are you advocating for in the grand scheme of things? When we know our first team it ensures we align with ministry leaders across the church. This brings unity and breaks silos. Understand where your objectives fit with the overall mission of the church. 

You have the ability and authority to bring peace in situations between silos. 

Action Step: 

Schedule consistent time with your First Team. 

#2 Prioritize Objectives

Working On vs. Working In

Working on it is a lot harder but at your seat, you have to spend time working on your ministry. How much of your time on your calendar is spent working ON your ministry?

Set annual, quarterly, and weekly objectives. 

Set weekly objectives every Monday.

Calendar time for evaluation and realignment – out of the office

Track your progress to see your wins. 

Can I schedule afternoons to work on ministry? Change locations to work ON ministry. Coffee shop. Write down specifics so you don’t give that time away to other things. 

Calling the Play vs. Running the Play

Not just what to do, but how to do it. 

How = action that moves toward objectives. 

How can be collaborative? 

Show them how to do it vs. leverage the influence of your team to figure out how. Connect the problem with the right person to help us resolve it. 

Playbooks: A great tool or resource that gives the How, What, and Why to do a job. How to be a coach playbook. You can’t work on the ministry unless you get out of the ministry weeds. 

Action Step: 

Calendar your objectives every Monday. 

Clean it up. Remove meetings not producing what needs to be produced. 

“Alignment is not created by new vision. But by restarting that which you lead toward over and over again.” Sam Roberts, Life Church Directional Leadership Team. 

Champion those you lead around the nextgen ministry. 

Your job is to be the bass drum

#3 Meet with a Purpose

Vision: alignment & setting source

Tactical: event/project drive or ministry-specific

Coaching: leader development & problem-solving.

Know WHO sets the agenda. 

Plan for what decelerates vs accelerates

Purge or repurpose regularly. 

When Coaching…

Let them know they are setting the agenda. 

Start with the question “What’s on your mind?”

What challenges are you facing?
Where are you winning?
What questions do you have?

If you bring answers to these 3 questions then you will maximize our time together. 

Book: The Coaching Habit by David Henzel

Action Step: 

Review your calendar quarterly & purge/change the unproductive. What meetings do not fit in the categories. 

Everything goes on your calendar. You have one life. It can all be tracked in the same place. This also helps with evaluation. 

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Structure NextGen Staff to Move Further Faster

Dan Doerksen @DanDoerksen
www.dandoerksen.me/OC19

Churches took their preexisting model of staffing and then called it nextgen. If you do this, you’re just going to be frustrated. Dan restructured and no longer had the traditional roles within his nextgen staff team. 

You don’t have to have a large staff to become innovative in your staffing…you don’t even need to have staff. Hire less on age group and more on their gifting and role. Empower them to do this 90% of their time. 

Gift-based hiring structure. 

You’re here because you have problems to solve. How do you balance the tension and frustration in the nextgen ministry? 

A very expensive nice tool sits in the box if you don’t know how to use it. The structure is this expensive tool. 

If you don’t know what to do with the tool it’s very dangerous to toy with. You need a good deal of wisdom and insight to pull off these staff changes. 

Structure = organizing people (org chart)

The structure is a tool that addresses your most stressful problems; people problems. The structure is personal. 

Every tool has its uses. This tool of structure can address these scenarios: 

You have great people…in the wrong roles.

Your staff coordinates well…but only with their own teams.

You have a highly creative team …but their quality is “meh”

Your team values excellence…but never innovates.

You have a new vision and strategy…but nothing changes. 

Why do you find yourself in a silo? Not silo by nature, but simply doing your job description. This is a structure and culture issue. 

Assumption #1: We need more staff. 

There are so many boxes on the org chart and my name is on all of them. Maybe you do need more staff or maybe it’s a structure issue. 

Book: Mark DeVries. Sustainable Children’s Ministry: From Last-Minute Scrambling to Long-Term Solutions.

1 FTE/50 kids, 1 FTE/75 teens

For every child that shows up, churches spend $1000 per kid per year. Salaries and budget combined. 

Instead of trying to fill all the seats on the bus, maybe you need to rearrange the seats. If your structure is a mess, adding another person will only increase the complexity. 

Assumption #2. We need better staff. 

Is it really a people issue? Maybe it is, but maybe it’s not. Let’s back up and ask, “Is this the person or the structure they are working in?”

Cognitive bias: Inside a situation, you see the factors. Outside looking in, you blame the situation. If your team member is failing, it will be tempting for you on the outside looking in to think it is their failure. We need to own how our staff is performing. We create the context to which they work. We have to look to ourselves first not them. 

Dance floor analogy – DeVries and Safstorm

Dancer rolls her ankle by going through the floor. No one repairs it but simply brings in a backup dancer and keeps going. Maybe your team members aren’t good dancers, but it’s awfully hard to get better when the floor is broken. Fix the floor first and then you’ll know what you’re working with.

Assumption #3. Our church is unique. 

You need to be a big church…small church…new church. The principles of how to structure will scale and transfer. 

Assumption #4. Our church isn’t unique. 

You can earn from others, but you can’t copy and paste. 

Sports analogy: teams don’t structure like different teams because they are playing different games. What is the strategy for your city within your culture? 

All dials and levers need to be adjusted together. When you change your strategy you need to change your structure. 

Assumption #5. We have to staff by age. 

Ex. If you want to reach teens, you hire a youth pastor. 

A “Divisional Structure” GM This is one way to structure your team. It because of the norm but it doesn’t mean it has to be. Maybe you don’t have to staff by age. 

Assumption #6: One person at the top. 

Unity of command; there has to be one person leading. 

It’s not wrong but it is optional.
Jay Galbraith’s Research: “When the challenges a corporation faces are so complex that they require a set of skills too broad to be possessed by any one individual.” Think outside the box. 

Freedom and authority to reach as many folks as possible. 

Core elements of Structure (dials on the tool of structure) 

Job Design: “Who is responsible for what?”

Product based-what is the product the church puts out in programs or services. Program based model. 

Demographic Based or market-based. What are my target market and staff around that market? 

Advantages: you can focus. One person with complete ownership of the process from front to back. The downside, a strong tendency to silos and misalignment. Multiple people doing the planning, marketing, and repletion of work instead of learning from each other. 

Function-Based. What are the same things across the ministry? Create that list and you have the suctions. Teaching, worship, tech, design, recruitment… take that ruction and turn that into a job description for all the miniseries in nextgen. 

Leader development and on-boarding from preschool to college. 

Programming development. Worship, props, teaching. 

Process-Based: step by step processed could be done by staff. Recruitment person, on-boarding person. A person for each of the process steps. Could be a staff member for first-time guests and one for members.

Authority: “Who can make what decision?”

You can give too much or too little authority. 

Don’t handcuff your people so they feel like what they are doing is insignificant. Loads of leadership potential but put into a helper role without authority. 

Span of Control: “How many people do you oversee?”

How wide is the org chart? With 3 people you can do a lot of training and coaching. If you want to grow you need to add layers. How does a person on level 5 talk to a person on level 2? 

A wide structure has less control but more autonomy. The people doing the ministry can make decisions. 

Coordination: “How does everyone communicate?”
How do you tie it all together so silo’s don’t form? 

The structure is all about communication paths. 

Next Steps #1 – Know your current structure. 

Do a task inventory. Do a time inventory. Track hours and know what they do and in how long. Find out what’s working and not working. If you could create your own job description, what would it be? If you could have any job, what would it look like?

Next Steps #2 – Plan for Growth

Stay flexible and figure out what can happen if you grow. How do you widen your span? Don’t get locked into one model. 

Next Steps #3 – Learn how to lead change

If you don’t think the structure is personal, try to change it. If you remove a title, it becomes personal. People don’t like change if they don’t understand it. 

Read: Leading Change Without Losing It – Carey Nieuwhof. 

Read: Leading Change – John Kotter

See the connections behind the connections. Let’s be brave enough and bold enough to look at our structure. 

“Let’s discover the structure for 2025 not maintain the structure of 1985.”

What is the strategy for today’s Church and what structure do we need to meet the needs of today’s world? 

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Hiring, Onboard,, and Equip NextGen Staff for Success

Nina Schmidgall
@ninaschmidgall

Building the right team is one of the most important things you do in your role as a nextgen leader. 

Get the right people on the bus and get them situated in the right seat. 

Hiring: Finding the right people

“People are not your most important asset. The right people are.” Jim Collins

“The secret to my success is that we have gone to great lengths to hire the best people in the world.” Steve Jobs

Set 

“Define the position” Some folks get this wrong by listing tasks, instead focus on objectives. What’s the best profile and personality type for the position? Would this person thrive under MY leadership? Sometimes you need someone with a high level of maturity to handle the tough issues of ministry. Do you need someone who is trained in childhood development?  Management, Pastoral, or Education experience. You can’t just borrow a job description from someone down the street, assess what you need. 

Seek

Generate a list of potential candidates. Sit in a quiet room and make a list. Maybe the person is already on your team or in a volunteer role. Who would be ideal in this role? Dream about those who you would love to have do the job. Don’t say someone’s “no” for them. You can also post to job boards. Begin to draw on your network and fish for people. Put the word out there and send some direct emails. I’ve heard about you. I’ve dreamed about someone for this team and you might be the best fit. 

Screen

Step 1: Email initial questions 

Send everyone the initial list of questions. Few key questions that would identify candidates. 

What do you know about NCC? Why dod you want to work here?
What aspects of ministry do you find most fulfilling and meaningful?
Why have you chosen ministry to children and their families? 

What is your philosophy of Family Ministry?

What is one of your most memorable experiences where you saw God move in the life of a young person?
Share with us a difficult experience you have encouraged in ministry and how you navigated it. 

How has your experience prepared you for this position? Why do you feel as though you would be a qualified candidate?

What has been your experience in developing volunteer leaders? What about managing staff?

Do you know anyone that currently attends? Would they recommend you for this position and may we be in touch with them?

Step 2: 15-minute screening interview 

This will feel incomplete. Quickly get to know you. 

What types of ministry do you hope to be doing in the next 5-10 years? 

What are you not good at and don’t enjoy doing professionally?

Tell me about someone you currently disciple. 

Tell me the names of your last three bosses and how would they rate your performance on a scale of 1-5. 

Step 3: In-depth Interview. 

They will send covenant and theological questions. They will be walked through in written and interview. 

View of baptism, women in ministry, spiritual gifts, sexuality, how to handle conversations, are there any parts of the statement of faith that made you uncomfortable? 

Step 4: Group/Panel Interview (zoom call)

Staff unity matters in culture and making sure they fit. 

Capacity

Competent

Culture/Chemistry 

Step 5: Reference Check

People get reference checks wrong. To catch red flags so why give someone who would share that? 

Ask: How can we support this person best?

The person mentioned they struggled with _ will you tell me more about that? Open-ended questions

Step 6: Visit

Pastoral level position. 

Onboarding – Direct their Energy

Discovery (days -30) – commit to a listening and learning posture. 

Learn the system. 

Know the history

Develop (days 31-60) – establish a foundation and start building. Beginning to look at team development. 

Design (days 61-90) – start adjusting and implementing. Establish their own rhythm for the team. Identify systems for improvement. Implement and experiment. 

Culture Sharing

Peter Drucker says, “Culture eats strategy for breakfast.”

A healthy culture will keep your staff around a long time. 

A set of shared values and goals that characterize our organization.

What do you want your staff to know and live out? What shapes our ministry? Are we connecting kids with caring adults?

What will you do to keep your team aligned and healthy? 

Shared Values: 

Values help determine who you are about. 

Keep your people aligned

Communicate 

Influence behavior

Inspire action

We have a big God, we take big risks and we expect big results. 

Attitude – we live on the solution side of every issue. 

We exist for the lost and the least of these. 

Culture is a combination of what you expect and what you allow.” Craig Groeschel 

Ongoing Investment

Vision Cast Continually

“Vision focuses on what does not yet exist, but should.” George Barna

Meet Regularly. 

Get the right people in the right room to solve almost every problem. Get on the same page. 

Develop Consistently

Not training alone.

Evaluate, where are they currently. Where do they need to be going? 

Equip. Create a plan of where you want them to go.

Empower. Give them responsibilities so they can grow in that area. Give authority . 

Encourage Prayerfully

Don’t forget to encourage on an ongoing basis and pray for your team. 

 

Build A Comprehensive NextGen Strategy For Families

Nick Blevins
@nickblevins

If we started from scratch, knowing what we know now, what would we do?

Think Orange (Soon-sh)
When Parents Win (Fall)

4 Levels of Parent Involvement

Parents who are are searching for an answer.

Outside your church but open to attending 

Interested in becoming better parents. 

Parents who are participating in church

Entry-level experience with your church taking steps to influence kids spiritually.

Parents who are applying a strategy 

Committed to partnering with the church and being responsible for spiritual leadership at home. 

Parents who are leading in ministry

Fully committed families who are leading at home and leading at church

Searching > Participating > Applying > Leading

It’s good having parents at every point on this spectrum. 

“The goal is not to get parents to do everything, but to engage them to do something more.” Reggie

5-Part Strategy for Parting with Parents

#1 Small Group Leaders

Connect kids and students to WHO

“Someone who chooses to invest in the lives of a few to encourage authentic faith.”

Applying and Leading

Leading SGL’s to show up outside the church

Help SLG’s connect with parents

SGL + Parent Open House event (MVP Box)

Small group leader + Parent breakfast/lunch

Small group leaders are your best partnership with parents. The best strategy in the world isn’t worth as much as an invested SGL. 

#2 Communication

Inform parents HOW

Searching & Participating 

Email (Inform Parents) Consider how many emails and if they have more kids.
Text (Remind Parents) 98% read – 1 or 2 a week and a reminder to lead faith at home.

Instagram (Celebrate Experiences) 5x engagement per post compared to FB.

Facebook (Resource Parents) Do it consistently. 

Website (Help Visitors) How do I know where to go? How do I check my kids in?

Apply & Learn

1-on-1 Conversations

Feedback Loops (Surveys, emailed questions, etc.) 

Facebook Groups

#3 Resources

Equip parents with WHAT

Searching & Participating 

Curriculum Resources 

Parent Cue App
Parent Cue Blog

Parent Cue Podcast

Applying & Leading

Bibles / Bible App

Topical Resources

Parenting Books

Phase

#4 Events

Help parents celebrate WHEN

Searching & Participating 

Transition Events (Preschool > Elementary > Middle School > High School)

Milestone Events – Core (Baby Dedication, Salvation, Baptism, Graduation)

Applying & Leading

Family Events

Milestone Events – Extended (Bible Presentation, Preparing for Adolescence, Identity, Integrity, Adulthood) 

Family Framework

Help people celebrate something

Help move people somewhere 

Help parents replicate and experience 

#5 Community

Connect parents to WHO

Searching & Participating 

Small group for parents

Small group parent gatherings

Coffee talks

New family orientation 

Applying & Leading

Parent Classes

Parent Events

Parent/Child small group experiences – Treasured

Parent Mentoring

Marriage Ministry

Make Your Plan

Searching > Participating > Applying > Leading

Less difficult > More difficult 

Less time > More time

Less money > More money

Less options > More options

Less transactional > More relational

Less general > More individual 

Less anonymity > More accountability 

In short…it becomes more personal 

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Important Notes

This will always feel like EXTRA.

Partnering with parents is a MARATHON not a sprint. 

If everything is a priority NOTHING is.

Every church is UNIQUE and will not prioritize the same way. 

A NextGen strategy for families should work with a church-wide DISCIPLESHIP STRATEGY for adults. 

“You teach what you know but you reproduce who you are.” Howard Hendricks

Parents replicate who they are in their kids.

Disciple the parents, disciple the kids

YOUR JOB

Gather a TEAM of people to help

Work together to MAKE your plan

Be FREE from the pressure to do everything

Do what makes sense for YOUR church and YOUR context NOW.

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38 Quotes from #OC19 Session 1

YOULEAD Notes-2

Jon Acuff @JonAcuff 

“You’re here (Orange) because someone made it personal for you.”

“When it’s personal, people are not an interruption they are the reason we do what do.” 

“When you make it personal, you make a person 3D. The internet makes people 2D. It’s easy to hate an idea, it’s hard to hate an individual.”

“It’s easy to hate an idea, it’s hard to hate an individual.” 

“If your hustle costs you deeply, your hustle is too expensive.” 

“Ask, ‘What do you need?’ Then actually act on it. When you act, they become visible and valuable.” 

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Virginia Ward @vawardwow

“The church should be the best place for a kid to find hope.”

“It’s easy to feel invisible as a teenager, especially when you don’t fit into one of the ‘boxes’.” 

“They valued my personal dreams.”

“We are going to take our cues from Jesus when it comes to making it personal.” 

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Kristen Ivy @Kristen_Ivy

“What if the opposite of personal is being shallow?”

“We can all be a little shallow sometimes.”

“If there’s pain that we can’t recognize in the church then the hope we offer is shallow.”

“If we can’t feel someone pain the healing we offer is shallow.” 

“No one needs to be seen by everybody but everybody needs somebody who sees them.”

“You can’t stop being shallow unless you learn not just to see someone but to be seen.”

“There’s a generation of too many kids and teenagers who are longing to be seen.” 

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Reggie Joiner @reggiejoiner 

“It was clear no one in the crowd saw Zacchaeus the way Jesus did.”

“Everybody needs somebody to see them like Jesus does.”

“Jesus never allowed public opinion change his personal view of people.”

“Maybe Jesus chose to see Zacchaeus in front of everyone that day so Zacchaeus could see himself in a different way.”

“Something remarkable happens when you start seeing people the way Jesus sees them.”

“Don’t get so preoccupied in the busyness of trying to save everyone that you don’t stop to save someone.” 

“Pause long enough to make it personal. You can’t be personal with a crowd, you can only be personal with a person.”

“One of the greatest things that we can do to train leaders and volunteers is to remind each other that everything we do boils down to one-to-one discipleship.”

“Jesus took the time to enter into Zacchaeus’ everyday context.”

“Jesus doesn’t let the crowd determine His love for people.”

“Jesus took the time to understand someone the crowd detested.”

“Jesus believed in Zacchaeus’ potential to be generous. He saw something no one else saw.”

“Jesus had a way of replacing shame with hope.”

“What if we, like Jesus, looked into a generation and helped them believe that their past doesn’t have to identify them.”

“When someone smarter and wiser sees our potential, we start believing in it as well. We all need someone to see us.”

Key questions to lean into a relationship with a kid:
Do you know their name?
Do you know what matters to them?
Do you know where they live?
Do you know what they’ve done?
Do you know what they can do? 

“Like Zacchaeus, WE are short. All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” 

“We are so programmed to see the bad in the world that we fail to see the potential of people created in the image of God.”

“Jesus shows up to say, ‘You are worth redeeming.’”

“If we believe in Jesus…We should be the first ones on the front lines to say to people, ‘Yes, you can change.'” 

“What if Jesus hadn’t stopped? What if someone hadn’t stopped in my life?”

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#OC19 YouLead Notes with @fbealer, @birk51, @vinceparker, and @jessicabealer

YOULEAD Notes

 

Get Everyone To Pay Attention with Frank Bealer @fbealer

We are going to turn up the dial on “It’s Personal” and this might feel overwhelming at times. It might feel like another thing to do but it’s more than that.  

Who’s going to come alongside you to be the filter to make sure you are doing the right principles. 

How many of you hand out resources to parents?
Social media channels for your church?

How do I convince leaders and parents to pay attention to what matters? We must turn up the dials on Pay Attention and What Matters

“Every time we get a leader or parents attention, we either build or erode trust.” 

It’s that one time at the right time that matter most. 

Attention + Trust = Impact (x repeat)

When we build trust we get influence and we get the opportunity to impact their future. But were are not done there, we must repeat the cycle. It’s a constant cycle for us to not take for granted that we have people’s trust.

Advertisements retarget and follow you. Now when you go to their webpage you are retargeted and followed. The advertisements start popping up everywhere. You can’t keep getting louder and demanding to get people’s attention. 

How do we convince people to pay attention? Error in the question. They are not willing to PAY but they will TRADE attention. Everyone is aware of this cost. 

If your volunteer training doesn’t help them win at home then you’re missing the point. They are looking for something that trades their attention. Something that’s helpful today AND in their future. Word things in a way that helps them see the benefit tomorrow not in the future. 

What if instead of focusing on saving $20 today it was “Hey parents, we have a limited number of spots today and we are going to be focusing on entitlement. We want to let you know this will be a big focus for us this year and we just wanted to come alongside you to help with this issue. We heard you and we want to help you win. (Also helps parents know they are not in this alone or the only one going through it.)

Families are very attentive to making bad trades. How do we know it’s worth our exchange.  Add value to parent’s lives. 

Attention is so extremely valuable, but we didn’t steward it well.

Most are deciding Sunday morning if they are going to attend church or not. They aren’t thinking about hitting snooze but deciding between two good options. We must communicate that we want something for them and not something from them. It’s not about celebrating the numbers there. We want you there because this is what it will create for your family tomorrow. Help them navigate issues for tomorrow. 

We communicate hype in youth ministry. First of all, we can’t fulfill our own hype. “It’s going to be one of the best weeks of…this month.” Instead communicate, “I’m glad you’re here, who’s your small group leader? They are going to be so glad to see you and we are so glad that you are here!” Students are looking for relationships. They are looking for someone who will notice when they are not there. We need to communicate this from the very beginning. It’s not the name of the ministry that is looking for you or the “we” but it’s the person who has a name. Use real-life names and real-life relationships. 

The biggest challenge with a handout is not the handout but the teenagers passing them out. We need someone communicating the value of what we hand them. “We trade efficiency sometimes for effectiveness.” 

We give away some of the best moments we have. Parent pickup. Be intentional and engage parents at this moment. 

“Marketing is the generous act of helping someone solve a problem.” Be empathetic. Come alongside them. Help them. We are just here to serve you. 

Text service where families can ask for prayer for the school year. 26 families signed up. “I didn’t use it but I just love to know my church is in my corner.” 

We say it’s mandatory and so important BUT most of us don’t send an email to those who didn’t show up. This communicates that they should have been there and it shows them it was really worth their time. 

Many of us in this room when we start in ministry we get really excited about the relational side of things, and then you figure out how messy and hard it is to get personal. Our response is to start making changes to our content and programming. We edit more and print more because it makes us feel busy. The reality is it’s personal and it’s going to be messy. We need to actually have relationships with people and followup and care for them. 

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Building Your Team For The Future – Jon Birkmire @jon.birkmire

iamnextgen.com 

Treat volunteers like staff. Build a leadership team. 

Doing this helps you do what you do better and gives you more time to do the things that only you can do. 

What can we do when our ministry needs more than WE can give? 

3 Traditional Options: 
Don’t do it
Do it and accept the consequence
Hire more people

We have limited bandwidth. Time is the great equalizer. 

Smart-water Illustration: 

“I’m about to save the world…I need 12 people.” 

Introduce some more water into your life. I’m going to hand you this and this and this. The two of us are going to make this thing work. You can do this and the truth is you need to do this. The average youth pastor burns out in 3 years. Add voices to your team. 

We need to re-think your organizational structure to add new voices. Not just more voices…But the right kind of voices. Add voices that replace yourself. 

Recruit the right voices

On-board 

Build and organizational leadership chart

Start with you

Think transferable models and common language

Create job descriptions. 

Develop an on-boarding 

What am I doing now that I can train and delete to someone else? Where is my water going into what cups that someone else can be filling? 

What language do you use to describe the roles? What are the win statements? 

Coaches, Producers, Directors

Volunteer Coach

Training, evaluating, leadership and care of SGL’s
5-8 hours a week (includes Sunday)
Owns volunteer coordination and on-boarding, caring for leaders mid-week and Sundays.
Leads small group leaders on Sunday
Extend your pastoral influence to someone else who cares for the team on a regular basis. 

Volunteer Producer

Training, evaluation, care, Sunday production efforts.
5-8 hours a week
Owns volunteer coordination and onboarding, caring for leaders mid-week and Sundays.
Lead production leaders on Sunday. 

Volunteer Director

Lead entire team, vision casting, and organizational efforts
8-15 hours a week
Owns the entire ministry responsibility, leads vision casting, evaluation and implementation of ministry model.
Directly leads coaches and producers.
Invite these people into the budget process, the planning of all ministry, the conferences, everything for ministry.
This is about appreciation over compensation. 

Exercise: On the Org Chart – Anything you don’t have someone’s name in, your name is in that box. You might not have this role yet, but you’re doing it. You’re pouring into that cup. 

Exercise: What roles are you currently fulfilling other than your own. Some of you need 40 different name tags because you are currently fulfilling 40 different roles. 

“When you hand over ministry to someone else, people fall in love with ministry.” 

Recruiting the right voices

You have to make friends before you need friends. 

Stop the cattle call at your church. There’s a difference between strategic service push and “we need volunteers”

Methods for recruiting: Observation, Hot List

Look for the people who fit what you are looking for in the positions you need. 

The hot list can be accessed by the team so everyone knows the needs. Constantly updated and reduced. 

Later you create a Warm List and Cold List. Is that a hard no or a warm no? 

Exercise: Recruit!
Write down the names of high capacity people you know in your church. 

On-Boarding New Leaders

You need a clean plan that sets up your leaders to win. 

If you constantly have leaders quitting, that’s not a them thing, that’s a you thing. 

ADAPT

Ask- clarify the role
Download – resource the role
Apprentice – Coach the role
Prepare – Setup the teams
Turn them loose – release the role

SOP – Standard Operating Procedure. 

Apprenticeship:

I do, you watch. We talk
I do, you help. We talk
You do, I help we talk
You do, I watch we talk
You do someone else watches.

People will never innovate if they don’t think they can. Get out of the way. Don’t fix everything for them. 

Exercise: On-boarding

What is missing from your onboarding process?
Job descriptions

Standard operating procedure

Role-specific resources and development

A culture of evaluation

Ministry core documents

Shadowing/apprenticeship system

Release Your Leaders to Lead

Get out of the way

Value who they are over what they do. 

Direct report and evaluation regularly

Resource regularly

Ask: How are you REALLY doing?

Bi-weekly meet with your staff. Staff meeting with direct reports at least once a month. 

When expectations are missed we talk about it. When you don’t talk about it you’ve set a new lower expectation. If volunteers don’t show up, you have to talk about it. 

Repeat the Process

Train your leaders to replace themselves

Practice open handedness

Evaluate yourself regularly (and ask for evaluation) 

Renew your personal vision

Celebrate life change

The way you pay people best is by celebrating wins and life change. Money in their relational bank. Their investment is paying out. 

You can do this. Your family needs you to do this. Your first ministry on this planet is to them. You need this. Some of you are tired. The solution is adding people to your team. 

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Create A One Year Ministry Plan – Vince Parker @vincelparker 

Where do you begin? What outcomes do you want to see?

Without a vision the people perish.

How will you measure it?

Where performance is measured, performance improves. 

All great chilis but 5 different ingredients. How you make the worlds best chili you need to measure the ingredients and evaluate. 

Measuring outcomes matters…

Data should have a seat at the table. 

Evaluate.
Evaluate your current situation. 

Where is your starting point?

What do you need to start doing?
What do you need to stop doing?

Write it down so you don’t forget. 

People

Who needs to be involved in the plan?
Who do we need to tell about the plan?
Who are you ministering to?

Place

Environment
What should the space look like?
Does the place support or hinder the plan?

There is a difference between a Starbucks, a home, and an arena. What does this look like?

Programming

How will you get your message out?

What you want to see happen, you need to program in. If we are wanting people in small groups, we need to program it in for people to do and see. 

What do you want them to feel and do? Feelings move to action. Give them every step so they can execute the plan. At the moment, they can text in or sign up to make it happen. 

Process

How does it all work together?

Do your systems help you better love people?
Is it sustainable? 

What happens when a student gives their life to Jesus?

Execute

Time to execute.

Lead with the why

Let them know why we can’t stay where we are at. 

When you lead with the why, people can’t help but join the vision.

Keep it simple

Stay committed. 

Evaluate 

Evaluate again!

Data has a seat t the table. 

What adjustments/tweaks need to be made?
Did you achieve the SMART goals? What milestones did you achieve?

Celebrate the wins. Not take the next day off to recover but to stop and thank God for what He did. 

Pray

What does God say?

Talk with God the whole way. Stay connected to the vine. 

Talk with God during each and every one of these steps. Seek wisdom and hear from Him every step of the way. 

Data may have a seat but God has the biggest seat at the table. 

What do you measure? Rock software.
Who are the leaders who attend?
How many students give life to Christ?
Student attendance and how many times in the moth? 2.3x in a month.

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Develop An Effective Coaching System – Frank and Jessica Bealer @fbealer @jessicabealer

Training vs. Coaching

Training is systems, standard boundaries. It’s operational.

Coaching is mission, vision and understanding. It’s purposeful.

Information without intention feels insignificant. 

Familiarity vs safety. It communicates safety when you check the tags. You know them and it matters that you communicate this but it communicates the message that safety comes first and foremost. The new family or the divorce family needs to see safety each and every Sunday. 

Empowerment starts with clarity of vision.

Define the win. 

Most of our team huddles are logistics. Our mission is not to get through the crafts. The win for the day is for you to build relationships. In these VIP meetings, define the win. 

Implementing a coaching model

1. Identify coaches by assessing top leaders in each ministry area. 

They need to be really good at what they are doing. Are they good at communicating with adults? Are they at ease with conflict? Can they have hard conversations? Could you see them firing a volunteer if that was needed? 

2. Remove coaches from your church organizational charts.

Take coaches out of the rotation one step at a time. Don’t start by pulling all of your top leader volunteers. Start with small group coaches and the check-in coaches because these volunteers directly work with students. Don’t set yourself up for failure. 

3. Outline a coach’s responsibilities, timeline, and steps with each new or existing volunteer they are advising. 

Coaches need to fully understand their role. It’s not their responsibility to tell someone they are doing things wrong. It’s support, not critique. Create a role that a coach can not say more than one critique in a week. You should never have a clipboard as a coach. It’s observing and offering feedback at what works. Coaches aren’t going to fix a small group or small group leader in one week. The goal is tiny steps in the right direction. Love and support around one small critique. 

4. Encourage coaches to document the process. 

They need to make notes for you and for themselves. They need to see how far someone grows. If someone is still struggling 3 months later, then you might need to step in. Systemize with something like a google doc. Name, date, comments. Inspect what you expect. Make sure your coaches are doing what you are asking them to do. 

Systematize Care: On Sunday write a card before they leave. Write down what the expectations are for them each week. 

Every coach needs a full roster of who they are coaching. Contact information, Favorites Form, a system for making purchases, budget plan for empowerment. $15/week pre-approved. Give spending permission to volunteers.  

Retention should go up with a coaching model. A greater span of care. Implement a support structure. 

5. Schedule quarterly gatherings with coaches and other insiders. 

When your coaches are in the know they feel more equipped and prepared for what’s coming. Ask what are you seeing? What do we need to do a little different? Help them feel like the insider group that helps the ministry win. 

Go further, faster, and steward well the ministry. Make room for more people to do the ministry. It’s impossible for you to develop everyone on your team. If you worked on developing your coaches, they can develop the team. Lean into and on your coaches. 

Presentation and Family Ministry Coaching Documents: generis.com/orange-jess-bealer-coaching