#NYWC19 Big Room and Breakout Notes

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Big Room Session One

Albert Tate @alberttate 

“Remix” is when you take something old and make it new again, that’s what I feel like this gathering at YS is all about. I need a remix in my soul. I need Him to do something new with what is old in my life. Ministry, you can learn how to do it and make it happen but what used to be a passionate pursuit becomes something you just show up and do. 

Luke 7:11-17 – Jesus Raises a Widow’s Son

We dismiss the pain of our realities too many times in our Christian circles.

Don’t cry as if there is no hope. 

You may be here on the verge of giving up…don’t give up, don’t quit, now is not the time to throw in the towel. If you still have breath in your body you have purpose in your chest. 

If you tie your identity the success of the ministry, when the ministry stops being successful you stop being successful. God has tied us together so we can carry each other through the burdens. God sees you, we come together so we can see each other. 

God jumps in the ditch with you. He says, ‘I’m here and I know the way out. The devil is a liar. Not only does God see you, but we see you and you’re not alone. When you have a ditch in your life, God jumps in with you. He knows the way out.

Jesus wants to breath new life in places that have been dead in your soul. He has been doing great things in your ministry and what He wants to do through you He first has to do through you and in you. And as He does it, you’ve got to thank Him. Thank God with the fullness of expression. 

Every great gift demands a great response. If you got that excited about a tiger (woods), let me tell you about a Lamb!

Social Media Madness: What Kids’ Social Media Posts Reveal About Who They Are and What They Need

Speaker:  Walt Mueller 

In today’s world, kids live out their lives on social media. To get to know our kids along with their deepest longings and needs is a task made easier when we take time to deconstruct how they are fabricating, curating, and promoting themselves online. In this seminar, Walt will walk you through how a student’s use of social media can open your eyes to their most pressing unmet spiritual needs, along with practical ministry responses that will answer those needs with Gospel-centered hope. The seminar will end with some suggested social media practices that can re-form students in ways that bring honor and glory to God.

How to take a social media “purposeful pause – 

https://digitalkidsinitiative.com/resources/handouts/

In a world of tremendous noise, what matters is relationships. Devices are undoing our humanity, but relationships screen louder than this (device). 

95% of teens have access to a smartphone

53% of 11-year-olds own their own smartphones. (4 years ago it was 13)

45% of teens say that are online almost constantly. 

Common sense media census 

Technology is not a bad thing. The question is, “In what direction are we going to use it?” Do we advance the Kingdom of God or advance the kingdom of world, flesh, devil with technology?

Discipleship is about all of life. 1 For 10:31, all for the glory of God. 

Think about integration. Our faith is not about just coming to Jesus but seeing our faith woven in every area of our lives. The Gospel speaks to all of these areas of our lives. 

“Social media is a primary playground for creative self-expression.”

Out of the overflow of the heart the fingers text. 

This is not just a student thing…this is a human thing. 

Two main tasks of childhood and adolescence are:

  1. Identity Formation – Who am I?
  2. Worldview Formation – What do I believe?

https://www.commonsensemedia.org/Media-use-by-tweens-and-teens-2019-infographic

Signals – to deeper needs

For many of our kids, their use of social media is an effort to fulfill unmet human needs.

An identity “fitting room” where I can create and curate myself in order to be liked. Watch the movie “8th Grade”

Fabrication – on who fabricates or manufactures something; a counterfeiter or falsifier. 

Curator – one who has the care and superintendence of something. 

Promoter – a person or organization that helps something to happen, develop, or increase. 

Students believe this about identity: “I am defended by my appearance…and what it looks like to others.”

“Selfie Harm” 2019 Project from British fashion photographer Rankin “Make your photo social media ready.”

”The screen becomes not a vein of truth, but a mirror of desire.” Mark Bauerlein

An identity “fitting room: where I can create and curate myself in order to be liked. Help them to find their identity in Christ. When you find your identity in places other than Christ you are engaging in idolatry. 

Resources: Face Time: Your Identity in a Selfie World by Kristen Hatton

Resource: What do you think of me? Why do I Care?  Edward T. Welch

Connections in a world of broken relationships. 

“I wanted a hug, and I got pregnant.” 

Significance and validation in a world where I’m forgotten and feeling worthless. We feel less than. <

James 4:2

If we’re honest, way too many of our posts scream, “Hey, look at me!”, “Hey, look at my kids”, “Hey look what I did.” It’s about showing off our kingdom. Humble Brag. 

Seek the spotlight….and it will blind you.
Don’t compare your insides to every else’s outsides.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Fear of Man
Idolatry

Significance and validation in a world where I’m forgotten and feeling worthless. Remember and value! 

Additional Ministry Strategies…

Teach Biblical humility. (Col 3:12) God’s goal for us is to not make us impressive but to make us holy. 

Don’t bite with a “like” when someone is fishing for that “like.” If they are seeking significance and validation in things outside of Christ, don’t encourage this through liking their post. 

Let your work and reputation speak for itself. Teach by your example. You don’t have to post your own report card. 

Answers to the questions I have about life that nobody in my life is answering. How much are you doing in your ministry to give them answers? 

Convenience because my life is hurried and harried. #1 problem with college students. Also causing sleep issues. Offer knowledge and experience of Sabbath rest. It is reflexing and relaxing to rest from social media. 

Escape because I need to forget my hurt and pain. Diversions from time to time are not bad. Offer help, hope, and healing. How much are you doing in your ministry to offer hope and healing? 

Redemption because I am empty, incomplete, and need to be made whole. Ec 3:11. Longing for heaven. God-shaped vacuum. Look for the spiritual hunger points, the unknown gods of this next generation. Point them to the redeemer. How do you point them to the redeemer? 

Don’t forget the relationship. They are watching you. In the context of a relationship, your words and your example speak loudly! 

How to Jump-start Your Youth Ministry

Speaker:  Justin Knowles  @justinknowles3

Whether you are literally starting a new position or you have been in your position for year and just need a reboot, there are some practical ways in which to get the blood flowing in your personal leadership, your volunteer leadership and ministry programming to get the ball rolling again. Sometimes we just need to restart, ask some hard questions, take a go hard look at our ministry and make some tough decisions to breath life again. This workshop is a very practical way on how to essentially…. Re-start.

What does jump-start mean? 

Not immediate, 6 months, full of prayer. 

I don’t want to go anywhere God is not leading me. 

01 Meetings, Meetings, Meetings. Gathering info on the people you serve.

Do we really need more meetings? Most of the time why things get stagnant is because we stopped paying attention, got complacent (into a rhythm) and stopped listening. You only get answers to the questions you ask. Jesus was the master at asking questions. Be the best question-askers. 

Spend 1st month in meetings with: 

God; we don’t want to go where God’s not leading. Spend at least one day alone without a phone and without distractions. 

Leaders; They are your boots on the ground and your best insight or worst obstacle. 

Core Students; Who do you want to listen to? If you’re there to serve them you should hear what they have to say. Would they invite a friend?

Meeting with God. Think through these questions:
How is my heart?
What do I need to work on to be a better follower of you?
Are you loving what you are doing? Am I still called to this?
Am I using the gifts you have given me to really further Your Kingdom?
Are my values aligned with Your Values?
Where do you want us to go?

What is missing that we need to be focused on?

Meeting with Leaders.

What is the best thing in our ministry right now?
If you had the power to change something what would it be?
On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate our service?
On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate us at outreach/reaching new students?
On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate our teaching/small group curriculum right now?
How do you follow up with new students?
What is one thing you can bring to the table to benefit our ministry?
What is the biggest thing you need from me as the leader of this ministry?

Meeting with Core Students. 

What do you think about…

On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate our student service? 

In the service, we put on worth being invited too? Why or why not?

On a scale of 1-10, how comfortable are you inviting a friend? Why?
Are the events we are throwing worth being invited to? Why or why not?

On a scale of 1-10, how are the leaders we have leading our group? Explain.

02 Vision and Strategy. Do you have one? 

Andy Stanley on vision…

A mental picture of what could be, fueled by a passion that it should be.

We don’t drift in good directions, we disciple and prioritize ourselves there. 

Keep it simple stupid. Michael Scott. 

Sandals Church:
Youth Attendance – Last year ____, This year ___.
# of small groups – Last year ____, This year ___.
Summer Camp attendance – Last year ____, This year ___.
# of students serving – Last year ____, This year ___.

Attendance is “a thing” not “the thing”

If I can get a kid to summer camp, I’ll have them the rest of the year. 

Strategy – the playbook

Midweek. Target audience is 11th grade boy. Element of fun (can we uncross the arms and help them lean in?). Biblical message. Nod to new students (assume they are there). 

1st Wednesday

Monthly invite night. 20-30 minutes after service to hang out with students. Cereal Bar. Movie night. 

Groups

A place where students can dive deeper. 15 students max. In house curriculum and front line to parents. Minister to the families of the kids and not just the kids. 

Weekends

Main connection point between services. Care for them and make sure they are there. Attend one and serve on. Attending services outside of just youth services. Connected and serving beside other adults so they feel like part of the church. 

Schools

Pick one school and all in. Want teams and leaders to go all in. Not every kid will come but every kid can know we care. 

Local Outreach and Missions

We want our students to go with the church on a missions trip not on a youth only trip. We can also get adults serving through this 

Summer Camp / Winter Conference

2 strategic events we want every student to attend. 

Online, Omni-Channel. 

Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, podcast (student morning show as they are getting ready for school.)

Why calendar placement matters…

Lots of calendar exists but don’t serve a strategic purpose

Build momentum. 

How does the calendar work with event registration? 

There is a wave that happens when you stack events and teaching strategically. 

What if you had a worship night before summer camp so you jumpstart the worship experience at camp. 

03 Leader Culture and Training. 

Do you have glorified babysitter or ministry leaders?
Do they wonder why leaders are there?
Are they viewed as glorified security guards? 

Do they know the students names? 

Do the leaders know why they are there?
Train leaders to know what the win is before they step into the position. 

If you don’t know why leaders are there then you have a babysitter. 

Do your leaders know what it means to win? Everyone wants to win. 

Conversations about Jesus – Do you talk about Jesus?

Follow up – Did you go beyond the initial contact?

Wednesday plus – Did you interact in some way outside of Wednesday Night? 

When leaders know the target, they can hit it easier. 

Simple, clear, concise goals. 

1-4 most important goals. 

Communicate them every single week.

Follow up in one-on-ones if leaders are not meeting them.

This is how you upkeep your leader culture.

You are the keeper of your culture. 

You are the CRO! Chief Reminding Officer of your ministry. 

By the time you are tired of saying it, they are just starting to get it.

A solid leader process equals solid leaders. 

Potential leader applies online. 

Lead will send them general info of their campus.

1st meeting sit down

2 week of showing other leaders (hands-on training)

3rd week and 2nd sit down (go through expectations)

Add them to CCB groups and co-leader, celebrate them next week as a new leader. 

Leader Expectations 

Eyes and Ears

See the needs

Look for students 

Self care 

Develop relationships

Facilitate over teaching

There is safety or boundaries 

Empower parents

Walk the walk

Be consistent

Get training

Celebrate loud, hard, and often. Drive leaders miss this often. 

If we don’t celebrate, our leaders will feel used.

Every week highlight a leader who did something great. 

Our job as leaders is to make sure our leaders know: 

What our wins are. 

Know how to get those wins. 

Celebrate those wins. 

04 Intentional Outreach

Take a hard look at your service. 

Things to think about…

Changing your culture requires change in the organization. 

Don’t just do things to do things.

Develop any type of culture takes time. 

This should not be done alone. Invite your team into it. 

Tough Questions to ask about your service/events:
Is your service/gathering worth being invited to?
Is the language that you use, new-person friendly?
Is your service/gathering have the new person in mind when they do show up? 

After Service Events

No more stand-alone events but attached to Wednesday nights. Because it has a higher ROI. 

Exposed to a hope and community when they come. 

Events are shorter. Leave wanting more.

Once a month is a great goal. 

It doesn’t have to be extravagant. 

Unleash the leaders to do what they do. 

Summer camp is a linchpin. 

It’s an outreach. 

Challenging to the believer and engaging to the non-believer. 

A week of camp hourly equals a year-long of Wednesday nights hourly. 

Fall is based on the summer camp experience. Make this the main thing. 

Can a non-church kid go?

05 Social Media the place where students will look. 

Don’t do it all. 

Know what your students use most and go all in there. 

Make it stand out. 

Think about how many good looking advertisements there are. 

If social media is the main form of communication and connection for students and friends, why wouldn’t we go join them in that setting?

Helpful Apps

Word Swag

Over

Unfold

To schedule:

Hootsuite

Later

Buffer

Spend an hour now to plan the week later.

Message recap

Monday Devo – written by students and leaders

Schedule it out and follow the plan.

Big Room 2

Lucas Ramirez @TheLucasRamirez

It is time for the generation of leaders today to disrupt division and move us into completion. 

John 17:20-23 Prayer for Unity

It is time for the church to rise up as the example of unity.

A murmuration of starlings – moving together and avoiding a collision. 

The why and how behind the formation. Birds first taught us how to fly and now they will teach us to unify. 

Our movement is density-dependent. Critical mass. You can’t murmur ate with 3 birds. 

 

Reggie Joiner @reggiejoiner 

How you work together can change how a generation sees God.

The enemy gets nervous when we decide to do things together. 

Nehemiah 8:3

I am carrying on a great project and cannot go down, why should the work stop while I leave it and go down to you?

Nehemiah was actually working on the wall. He couldn’t stop the daily work he was doing because it was too important. 

Keep working together, regardless. 

Keep doing something personally, that reminds you why you do what you do. Who is the person and what is the ministry in your life that is remind you of what’s important? Experience first hand the impact of how important the work you are doing is to the kingdom. 

All the volunteers Nehemiah needed were already in the town. They just needed a strategy and a plan. 

What would it look like if you decided to surround yourself with the right kind of people?

Who are the people in your circle who make you feel inspired? 

Take it a step further and make a list of the people who do NOT inspire you. You have VIP in your life. Inspiring, and you have very Draining people.

Leaders who are negative, who think they are the smartest people, who want to pick political fights…do not inspire me. 

Keep reminding everybody everywhere what matters most. 

By showing up week after week, you are making a statement week after week that THIS matters. 

This work matters; it is so critical. You are surrounded by people who collectively make the enemy nervous. Keep working together regardless. 

Those on the outside the wall changed their mind about who God was. Wouldn’t that be great if we did something so amazing that people changed their view of God? Those inside the walls trusted God in a way they never did before. Worship broke out in a way it had never happened. It changed how an entire generation listened to God. It wasn’t because of a bible story they listened to God. It wasn’t because of a communicator. It was because of what they experienced together. The miracle of this story is what God did with what they did together. How you work together can change how a generation sees God. 

Danielle Strickland @djstrickland

Lie number one is it’s none of your business. 

Lie number two is it’s too hard and too late. 

Maybe the ministry of reconciliation was a hope for a better future? 

Start to rediscover who Jesus was. 

Start to preach this. 

The heart of the gospel is reconciliation. 

If you want to combat the lies there’s one posture that will help. Be in Christ. When it looks too hard and too late, be in Christ. 

The clearer your vision of Jesus, the truer the Gospel you preach.

It’s not too late, it’s not too hard, and it is part of your business. Preach a Gospel of transformation to the too hard and too late. Pray for Sauls to be transformed into Paul’s. If you’re believing the lie, get a clearer vision of the one you serve. It’s not too late, it’s not too hard. 

Samer Massad @SMassad7

Death by distraction – being pulled in so many different ways that we can’t keep it all together.

Distraction is anything urgent that takes your attention away from something important.

If we aren’t careful, distraction will drain the life right from us.

Your ministry is the ‘urgent’ that wants to distract and pull you away from the thing that’s most important… your personal relationship with Jesus.

Ministry can take up so much energy that it distracts from actually sitting and being with Jesus.

Luke 10 – Mary and Martha

Are we doing too many things for God rather than spending time with Him? 

How many of us have the voice of Martha in the inner parts of our hearts? You have messages to write, small groups to plan, work to do. There’s no time to listen, sit, and learn.

The Distraction Dilemma: 

Even a good thing can distract you from a better thing. 

Doing for Jesus is not the same as being with Jesus. 

Ministry is important, but what Jesus is saying to Martha is that it’s about order and priority.

If the devil can’t make you sin, he will make you busy…. even with ministry.

Jesus wants to restore what’s been depleted. When we get caught up doing for Jesus instead of being with Jesus, we have a depletion and fatigue of the soul that sleep cannot fix.

Your capacity alone will never be what it can be when you’re connected to Jesus.

What if we took on the posture of Mary? Time to sit and learn, unadulterated time with Jesus. 

Nobody wins and nobody gets your best when you fail to come to Jesus and get rest.

Jesus doesn’t love you because you’re in ministry. He loves you because you are a son or daughter of God.

Faith for Exiles
Mark Matlock and David Kinnaman

The Builders 1927-1945. 

Believed the exterior world could change our interior world. Focused on technology to make you happier. Dreamed of a 3 day work week. Dad would point to the roof over the families head as a way to show love. 

The Boomer 1946-1964

Massive generation out of world war 2 generation. Shaped by Vietnam. Blind faith in question. 

The Busters (Gen X) 1965-1979

Small generation. Surprise to parents well made plan. Contraceptives with errors created surprises. Latch key kids. Reality Bites movie. 

Millennials (Gen Y) 1980-1995

Most abused and misunderstood generation. Participation trophies from their parents who felt abandoned by their own parents. Positive psychology comes into play. Technology to prepare for kids in a whole new way. Internet disruption. Corruption in so many leaders in business, sports, and politics. Technology- A wisdom to their generation they could teach the older generation. 

Digitals (Gen Z) 1996-2009

Never breathed air without internet. New way of interacting with the world. Pioneers with an imagination of how to do things in a whole new way. 

Generation Alpha 2010-2025

Parents have these kids later in life. More single kid families. Parents change vocations more in their lifetime than any other. 

Direction setting questions 

Teenagers ask the same basic questions. 

Identity: Who am I?

Autonomy: What decisions are mine to make?

Belonging: Where and with whom do I fit in?

Epistemology: what is my trusted source of truth?

Being asked in adolescences and again in their 20’s. 

The shift facing the church in these changing times. No longer living in Jerusalem. Trying to preserve something that feels list. Make America Great Again. 

https://youtu.be/Q8mQRTkrBcs

Weight of Digital Babylon v. spiritual input. 

2767 hours per year on social media

153 hours typical spiritual content 

291 hours for churchgoers. 

Screens Disciple

Normally someone who has doubts would talk to someone. Today they do research online before taking with a person. The screen has the discipling conversation before you even get an opportunity. Same as doctor asking what we think is wrong because we research before walking in. 

Resilient Disciples digest nearly double the hours of Christian content annually. 

562 hours of content annually

Four kinds of exiles 

(Not different religions or those who never identified as Christians)

18-29 year olds who grew up as a Christian. 

Prodigals ex Christians 22% (10 years ago was 10%)

Nomads lapsed Christian’s 30%

Habitual Churchgoers 38%

Resilient Disciples 10%

Pressures facing today’s exiles

Searching for identity: who am I, really?

Fighting anxiety: how should I live in today’s world? Fear of missing out

Experiencing loneliness: am I loved?

How do I make a difference in the world?

How do we define resilient disciples?

Christ followers who…

Attends church at least Monty and engage with their church more than just attending worship services.

Trust firmly in the authority of the Bible. 

Are committed to Jesus personally and affirm he was crucified and raised from the dead to conquer sin and death

Express desire to transform the broader society as an outcome of their faith.

Resilient disciples: developing Jesus followers who are resiliently faithful in the face of cultural coercion and who live a vibrate life in the Spirit. 

We have a lot of people in the church who have their hand on the doorknob of the church almost ready to leave. 

At what age did you consider this. 

Resilience 11 

Habitual 9 

Nomads 8 

Prodigals 8

Those who are stronger in their relationship with Christ are engaging on a deeper level at a later age. 

Meaningful relationships means being devoted to fellow believers we want to be around and become. 

What do you mean by discipleship? 

Recognizing our identity, aligning our values, and developing skills in the way of Jesus Christ. 

3 Part Triangle: Values, Identity, Skills. 

Put post it notes on each of these. What are the marks of a disciple? 

Pay attention to how the programs and interactions at your church are forming the identity, skills, and values, and what the content is they are conveying. 

Exiles are instrumental to God’s purposes in time of change. God uses a remnant in moments of epic trust, where they are all in for the glory of God. 

Vocational Discipleship

Josh Griffin Why games?

Humor and fun are disarming. 

Fun shortens the distance to the heart. 

Games help speed up interaction and relationships. 

When students walk into your ministry they have their arms crossed and an “impress me” attitude. 

Games are a tool in your toolbox to invite kids to Christ. 

Potential engagement tool as a part of the message and teaching. 

Demonstrate cultural relevancy. (Is Kanye Smiling game). 

Always Games?

Entry level programming should always have an element of fun. Fun can take many forms and shapes…sometimes games. 

Back pocket game: sit down if…

Lightsaber or slap wrestling. 

First to…

Head, shoulders, knees, cup

10sie. Ten dice per person. All ones. 

Train Wreck. Half kids on each side, pull out a chair. 

Frozen Turkey Bowling

Wink: sit in circle. Boy girl look down. Whoever is it winks at another. 

Cougar Cougar. Sardines but once found, they can tag. 

Broom hockey. Line up by height. 1-20 and 20-1. Yell number and get puck in through goal. 

The Grunge: one tag person and get ride of the grunge by assembling the flashlight. 

DYM: Create a great game that crushes it. What if instead of it dying on the your hard drive it goes on a site that you split the costs. Instead of 20 people playing and enjoying it 2000 do and you make some money. 

Name that candy bar. 

Nailed it or failed it. Cat edition.  

Extreme Bingo

Chris, Chris, Chris, or Chris

Peter, Peeta, pita, or p.e.t.a

Is it really in the Bible?

Picture of game on screen. 

Instructions. Here’s how to play

Who can play. 

What are we playing for? Prize. 

Here’s how everyone else can be. If the person loses the prize is thrown into the audience. 

Rock Paper Scissors to determine tie but if you tie you’re both out. 

Might even come back to the game later in your talk as a callback. 

The Source for Youth Ministry games database. Click group size, supplies, etc. 

Use Facebook communities and groups. DYM community. Private closed group so a youth pastor can join without worrying about church. 

Dude Perfect YouTube. 

Minute to win it. 

Crowd control games

More than dodgeball – 3 things on a cracker. 

Rhett and Link. 

Jimmy Fallon and Ellen. 

Pinterest. Extreme Jenna with a twist. 

Exhibit hall

Sit down if

Jiggapuff 

Poser

Rock Paper Scissors

Head shoulders knees cup. 

Screen games. 

All play vs contestant. 

Trivia in corners. 

Dead Cat

Name it, Claim it 

Lamentation or Taylor Swift Lyrics

Birds, Bees and other animals

Name that celebrity tattoo

Nailed it or failed it pool party edition. 

So you want to move to Canada. 

Trump or animal

Movement games

Mazecrase 

Mafia2.0

Messy games

Use sparingly

Blender of doom

FAQ

Should game tie in? Yes and no. It can but doesn’t have to. Who’s my neighbor game. Father’s Day game my dad is smarter than your dad. 

Where do games go in the program?

Think roller coaster. If you come late you miss it. 

Is there a strategy of putting games in some certain order. Wouldn’t lead with blender of doom because win rapport with all play games. 

Encore game. Take turns singing a word back and forth between two groups based on word. This is a game to play later. 

What should I use for a prize?

Bob Ross Funko. Cans of Pringle’s. Dollar store. 

Also big fun and extravagant prizes. Sometimes games to promote. Grand prize be scholarship to camp. Also used as marketing. 

How long should the game last. 

Based on content and if leaning on evangelism more is okay. If focused on discipleship, less. 

Should one person host. 

Missing a great opportunity to invest in the next leader with a cohost even if not needed. One person drives the game, the play by play. The second person is color commentary. 

How do I shake up a game or format that feels tired. Variety is the spice of life. 

DYM Gold. 

Dym.today/gold

30 days free trail without credit card and with credits. 

Consider:

Introduce the prize halfway through the game. 

A twist in the game. 

Almost always do the game before the game. 

Nona Jones #nonanotnora

If we are not careful we will allow what we see in them to become their truth. 

We will allow their behavior to become the ceiling for their potential to rise.

There are people who say that this generation is dead, but I know a God who can bring dead things to life.

Mark 5:21-36 

Don’t be afraid, just believe. – to think to be true. 

Believe has the power to make reality conform to what we believe to be true. 

I thought I was being invited to hang out with my friend. What I didn’t realize was it was Jesus calling me to hang out with Him.

What he realizes was that the church was not a place you go, it’s a community you belong to. 

Church is not something you do for 90 minutes on the weekend it a lifestyle of 168 hours. 

Our God is a God of impossible faith.

Mark 5:37-38

This generation is not a generation that is dead, they simply need to be awakened. The people laughed at Jesus and Jesus put them out. 

Mark 5:41-43

If we want to raise this generation to life, we have got to go to them. We bring the power of God to them. Where they are, is in the digital space. If we say, “I don’t do Facebook” what you are really saying is you don’t do home visits. 

Check your team

There are people on your team right now who don’t really like kids and who don’t believe in the power and potential of this generation. We don’t need warm bodies we need people who believe in the power of God to bring the dead back to life. We need people who are not constrained to tradition. We need people married to the message but not the methodically. We have to give them something to eat because this society is giving them junk food. Jesus is the bread of life. 

God has chosen you to the assignment to which you have been called. 

Crystal Chiang @CrystalcChiang

Keeping up with student culture is pressure.

If you think about those who are leaving the ministry, it almost always comes down to the pressure. The pressure to try harder and plan better.

“Every week there are opportunities laying on the ground that we won’t get too.

Grace and Peace

We trust grace to step in with our salvation but not our exhaustion. 

We think peace is the absence of pressure. 

Their peace comes from knowing who calms the storm. 

Peace is knowing I planned the event but God owns the results. 

Peace is knowing that I present the truth but His Spirit convicts. 

The faith we pass on is the one we live not the one we preach. 

Lean into what might feel impossible and trust the one who saved us from our sins to save us from our schedules.

Doug Fields @DougFields

Busy is not a Christian versus a non Christian issue, it’s a heart issue.

Everyone in our youth ministry is too busy (families, kids, you).

We are called to follow a Savior. To walk with Him, not to run ahead of Him.

Are we substituting abundance for busyness?

I hear you all say, ‘My pace has never been faster and my soul has never been drier.’

Busy is an enemy of love. Discipleship cannot be rushed. You can’t hurry depth. That’s just not the Jesus way. 

How would you describe Jesus in one word? Dallas Woolard used the name relaxed. 

Jesus modeled a love that stops, that strolls, that meanders.

Jesus was relaxed and moved slowly – normally to the frustration of people.

Presence is more important over business. 

The greatest command was not to get more done but to love Him and to love others. 

Don’t focus on a more productive life but a more present life.

You have to become comfortable with “no” Anytime I’m too busy it always points back to unneeded “yeses” 

Anyone can do your job. Only you can care for your family.

I’m afraid that we are being heroes to our ministries rather than being a hero at home. 

Become aware of what’s beneath your “yes”

Business is the surface issue of something much deeper.

You want to feel love, value, and appreciated so you say yes. And a subset of this is a fear. A fear you won’t be loved, valued, and appreciated so you say yes. 

Ask: Why did you say yes to that? This is where you find the brokenness in your life. 

Busyness is a choice, and there’s a price to pay for it.

You don’t have to answer people right away. Say you will get back to them. 

What’s the worse that could happen? You’ll lose your job…what about your marriage. There’s one Savior and you’re not Him. Jesus left people unhealed. Jesus didn’t minister to everyone. You won’t either. Maybe what you’re wanting to do is not on God’s agenda. 

Less panic, more prayer. 
Less activity, more intimacy. 
Less movement, more moments. 

What is one area in your ministry where you need to cut back and say no?

“Busy?” “Nope. Just trying o be like Jesus.”

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5 Line Items You Need for Your Next Budget

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Imagine if you had unlimited money and resources to spend on your youth ministry…No, remove that thought. I imagine in the end it wouldn’t be good for you and your students to try and do ministry and steward such a gift. But if you’re reading this post, then you most likely have some money for your youth ministry and we want you to steward it well. Here are five line items you might not be thinking about, but you need for your next budget.

STUDENT LEADERSHIP

If your goal in student ministry is to mobilize students to pursue authentic faith and discover a personal mission, then does your budget reflect this goal? Yes, you probably have a budget set aside for curriculum and events, but if a student came to you with a God-given gift, do you have anything set aside specifically to mobilize that student? Maybe this year you add a budget line item specifically designated for developing your student leaders.

LEADER SUPPORT

For years, we have had a volunteer appreciation line item in our budget. Volunteers are the lifeblood of any ministry and we need to make them feel appreciated for their time and efforts. While volunteer appreciation is valuable, what if we set aside some of the appreciation money to equip the leaders to do ministry? What if, instead of giving them a trinket to show our appreciation, we gave them some gift cards to take students to grab coffee? What if it didn’t cost them anything to attend school events or we covered the cost of snacks when that teenager raids their cabinets? I know my leaders would feel appreciated and equipped if I just made and communicated this minor change.

CAMPUS MINISTRY

Churches don’t always have the best of reputations. Jeff Henderson at Gwinnett Church says that the church is often known for what it is against rather than what it supports. Imagine if everyone in your local elementary school knew that your youth ministry was for them? Yes, this would take some time and strategy, and my guess, a couple of dollars to pull it off, but maybe today you could start by simply buying some donuts for the FCA group. Or maybe, when the teachers are stress out about testing, you cater a meal. Whether or not the students are stepping foot into your youth ministry, show them the love of Christ and open the door for them to see there is a loving place that is for them.

RETREAT / SEMINAR / CONFERENCE

I’m sure you’ve noticed how the days just keep on coming. The moment you finish one program or event, the next one’s just around the corner. It’s no wonder many youth pastors burn out. Ministry is hard and often youth leaders are lonely. Something your soul needs is time away and time with other people that get it. It’s a big investment for a church to make in sending their youth pastor to a conference, but the cost of hiring a replacement is so much higher. You might not be able to convince your board to make this happen overnight but maybe you can make a plan to get yourself to a conference within the next year or two.

RESOURCES AND BOOKS

In many careers continuing education is required to maintain good standing in the workplace but for some reason, many youth pastors can’t even buy a book to educate themselves. This year, how about asking if you could set aside money to buy a book every month. If this get’s turned down, maybe you could ask to be reimbursed for any ministry book you actually finish reading. You need to sharpen your ax, especially when it comes to leading this next generation. Ask for it, but for real, if it doesn’t get approved, skip a coffee or two and make it happen yourself. You need this.

Orange Tour 2019 Notes #OT19

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Learn together, lead together. 

Kristen Ivey – @Kristen_Ivy

Maybe: Personal is the opposite of shallow. 

Literal opposite of shallow, deep. We underline and filter for Instagram. 

A better alternative than becoming deeper is to become personal. 

Shallow is fast, dismissive, safe, and costs money. 

Personal takes risks, is interested, risky, and costs me. 

Do we offer shallow hope? Do we preach shallow truth? 

Move out of the shallow by: 

You can’t stop being shallow unless you learn to see someone. Andy Blessed are your eyes because they see. 

Nobody needs to be seen by everyone but everybody needs somebody who sees them. Including you.

You can’t stop being shallow unless you let someone see you. 

God allows you and calls you to be part of His mission even as He sees who you really are. 

Allow someone in your lives to see you. You need someone to know you fully. 

Think about a kid or teenager in your community who you are showing up to make it personal for. Write down their name. 

Who is it that really sees you? Who are you personal with and open fully up to? 

Andy Gullahorn – Teenagers – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ak5mCNEW9pI

Ryan Leak @ryanleak 

We are grateful for resurrection Jesus but the Jesus that perplexes me the most is wearing Jesus. 

John 11:33-35 ESV

Jesus, the man with all the power and all the answers, felt their pain before he tried to heal their pain. He didn’t let knowing how the story would end to change making it personal. 

Sympathy: Seeing someone else’s pain. I feel bad for you.

Empathy: Feeling someone else’s pain. I feel bad with you. 

What used to be an honor to help someone, the longer you help people, it moves from an honor to annoying. It starts to feel like an inconvenience.  We get there by losing our compassion. Here’s 3 ways how to get it back.

1. Prioritize. People over plans. 

People remember what we show up for than what we plan. Be more of a minister than an event planner. 

Inc Magazine asked top executives if they could name their priorities. 2% could. 

We have to beware of spending the majority of our time on things only the minority will even remember. 

There should be somebody that it’s personal. I can’t do it for everybody but I can do it for Fred. I can’t spend 15k on breakfast for everyone but I can for Fred. 

2. Stay in close proximity to people in pain. 

You can tell when a communicator is talking about people from a distance. A distance in time or proximity. 

Whenever it becomes personal, issues get humanized and we give way more grace to other than we would have if we had been distant. It’s easy to take shots at people from a distance. Be slow to take a stand against people we’ve never sat with. 

“When I see pictures of tragedy, don’t let it get old to me.” – Kristi Northup, Christian Artist

3. Have patience with ask holes. 

Ask Hole: “A person who repeatedly asks you for advice and continues to do the exact opposite of what you told them to do.”

At one point we were giving people amazing grace and now we say, “You should know better.” Extend the same grace you gave the first day you met them. God extends this amazing grace to us time and time again. 

Where would we all be if the people along our journey gave up on us when they should have? 

Make up your mind now to not give up on them. 

Ryan stepped down from the executive position because he felt like an in house lawyer who does event planning.

Remember why you do what you do and ask God to show you if you need to make an adjustment. 

 

Reggie Joiner – @reggiejoiner  

What if we just decided that everybody needs somebody who sees them how Jesus sees them? 

The way you see somebody changes more than you could ever imagine it would change. 

It changed the way Zacchaeus saw Zacchaeus. The way you see a kid can change the way he sees himself forever. 

It changed the way the town saw Zacchaeus. You can change the way the church sees kids. 

It changes what we do for them. When we see them the way Jesus sees them it will change how we treat them.

Everybody needs somebody who knows them personally. Show up on the front lines and get to know them personally. What Jesus did that day was He pulled Zacchaeus out of the crowd. There are things you can’t do in the crowd of your ministry. You need to pull them out of the crowd and meet them personally. Jesus had a plan and strategy and was on His way to Jerusalem to celebrate the Passover to eventually save the world but He stoped to make it personal.  Don’t get so busy in ministry that you forget to stop and help the person right in front of us. Stop and see if there is a kid in the tree in need of your attention. 

You can’t really be personal with a crowd. You can only be personal with a person. What does it look like to stop?

How personal are you willing to be with people? How much are you willing to challenge the crowd of your church to make it personal? Getting personal is harder. 

The crisis of faith of young people walking away from the faith will not be resolved in a crowd or by a presentation. It will only be resolved when we show up on a personal level. This generation feels ignored and we need to pull them out of the crowd and make it personal. 

Give every kid someone who will know them personally. 

Discipleship requires a consistent experience with a caring leader. 

Zacchaeus climbed the tree not only because he needed someone to believe in but also someone to believe in him. 

Everyone needs somebody to believe they can change. 

“Today, salvation has come to your house.”

Identity Belonging Purpose

Do you know my name? 

The gospel gives us the hope of transformation. 

People get up in the morning with the attitude of nobody can really change or anybody can radically change. You pick every day. 

If there is ever a voice in your head that says you are wasting your time with a kid or teenager remember the story of Zacchaeus. 

Start living the kind of life that will give people hope. Dare people to imagine a different version of themselves. It can actually happen because of the transformation power of Jesus. Give hope to a generation that is discouraged. 

One of the most powerful things you can hand to a generation is the idea of hope. 

Build a social media strategy that’s personal – Dave Adamson @aussiedave

Social media is the most effective and efficient way to make connections inside and outside the walls of our church. 

Online environments are where students are learning about society, sexuality, and spirituality. 

Use social media to enhance relationships. 

Social Media Stats 2019

More than 97% of U.S. teenagers use some form of social media daily. 

85% of students use YouTube every day

67% of teens believe they can learn anything they need to know about life from YouTube. 

Over 3M videos are viewed on YouTube every minute

More than 4 billion photos are liked on Instagram ever day. 

From fixing their car to fixing their marriage. This generation goes to YouTube for the answers to life’s questions. 

Paul used the technology of his day to connect people to God and to each other. Letter writing. 

We need to use social media to connect people with each other, and with God.

In our connected world, being personal is different. 

Connect for the other 167 hours. 

Tip 1: Know People’s Names

We track reach, names, and flowers but not how many people we are following. 

Greet people by name and follow them back and welcome them by name. 

Numbers matter because people count. 

Telephone vs megaphone. 

Start talking with your followers. Let them know we see them. Respond by name. 

“We see you”

What if you responded more than you posted? 

Put people ahead of posts. 

Tip 2: Know what matters to the people in your church. 

People use social media to post about what matters to them. 

Re-post and celebrate with people. 

Comment that we hope you have a fantastic time. Stop just talking about yourself. 

One benefit is the reward of the algorithm. When you post and comment on other people the algorithm rewards you.

When people feel like they are connect to you online they feel like they belong offline. 

Building community is greater than broadcast content. 

Tip 3: Know where the students and adults in community live online. 

If you want to connect with parents use Facebook. If you want to connect with kids use YouTube and TikTok.

Follow your students and comment on their posts, this is like you visiting their house. 

Have boundaries in place. Have multiple people who can comment on posts. Consider initials of who response. 

Tip 4: Know what they have done. 

What are they facing? What are they going through? 

People are more connected than ever before yet experiencing more disconnection than ever before. 46% of people in the U.S. feel alone. Those who feel most alone are GenZ. 

Everyone needs to be known by someone. Listen more than you post. 

What would it look like if you responded more than you posted? 

Tip 5: Know what they can do.

Self promotion vs what’s important to other people and what they have done. 

Church tracking software. What if we leveraged this for a different purpose. Celebrate 50 year wedding anniversary. 

What if you called out: Volunteer of the week. 

“God promotes the lives of those who promote the lives of others.” Brian Houston. And so does Mark Zuckerberg. 

Be high tech and high touch. 

Churches using LinkedIn

YouTube and Instagram or YouTube and TikTok. 

SproutSocial or Buffer 

3 essentials to follow: Need a photo, Don’t use profanity, no pornography. 

Crisis Escalation strategy – With the 3 hurts. 

TikTok. We might not like what we see there (like a skate park back in the day). Be light in the world. 

Leverage social to connect and train leaders. 

Instagram account for volunteers. Film helpful things for the Sunday lesson.  

Notification for a group. Post on Friday. Repost on Saturday. 

End service by saying, “Thank you for being part of our church today. We will see you during the week on social media.”

Sam Collier @samcollier

You can’t talk to old people that way.

Sometimes you just have to get out of the way. 

You’re not allowed to teach your wife anything. 

How do you treat the people in your inner circle? Your job isn’t to teach, it’s to love. What are your blind spots? Something negative you do that impacts other people or you that you don’t see. 

The way you fix your blind spots is to get personal and invite someone in. 

Don’t get so focused on your public image that you miss your personal issues. 

Do you know what matters to me?

Fun leads to trust and trust leads to depth. 

Tell me more…

Don’t dismiss what’s important to the next generation. If it matters to them, it matters. 

The relationship changes when you are interested in what they are interested in. 

Do you know where I live?

Step into their world. 

You can’t show up if you don’t know where they live. 

Know their generational, geological, or cultural context. 

Walk towards the mess. It might require more than we are willing to give and that’s okay. 

“I can’t understand why anyone would…” is a cautionary flag. A confession that you don’t understand another person. 

One of the best things we can do to be more culturally aware is to pause long enough to understand how someone else thinks.

It’s much better to offend someone with your presence rather than with your absence. @GeraldFadayomi 

You can’t out produce culture but culture can’t put relationship you. 

You might not be personal enough…

If your budget more on production than people. 

If there is. I plan to follow up with those who are missing. 

If parents don’t know what you talked with their kids about this week. 

If you don’t know which of your kids parents don’t come to church. 

If parents or volunteers don’t know who they should talk to when they have a problem. 

If adults are standing in the back watching kids. 

If you don’t connect with your volunteers throughout the week. 

If you don’t know how your students and kids need you to pray for them. 

If there’s not a lot of laughter happening in your environments. (Fun communicates you like them) the joy of the Lord is our strength. How strong is your ministry? 

If there’s not an intentional plan to reconnect at every phase. 

If your team didn’t talk about how to make it more personal this week. 

What if we measured success by how personal the ministry is? 

Dan Scott – Design a preteen ministry @danscott77

We were all preteens once. We went through that awkward phase we wish we could forget. 

Put yourself in their shoes and navigate the world through their eyes. 

Why preteens matter: 

We pay attention to the seniors walking away from the church but that decision is made in the preteen years. 

There are 23 million preteens in 2020! Navigate a brand new world that is very different than ours. 

They are navigating a unique transition. Not a straight line of childhood navigation. Our ministries help them transition into and out of the preteen phase. This is the first one they have an active role in how they transition. They are very aware that life is crazy and we help them navigate it. 

Embrace the preschool, engage the elementary, affirm the middle schooler, and mobilize the high schooler. Preteens sometimes are thinking like a scientist and other times are thinking like an engineer. And they have no control over which brain will show up at any given moment. 

The magic age of 11. 

From the start of their birth to about second grade they are thinking a certain way. Around 8-9 years old everything tapers off. They are old enough to do really cool things but not snarky. Then at age 11, they change. They begin to smell, become rude, and don’t want to do anything. The scan of a 11 year old brain is the same as a 3 year old. Cognitive pruning. The brain getting rid of everything it doesn’t need to make room for what it does need for adulthood. Preteens are literally losing their minds. They have had many moments that need brain power so they lose some areas of memory. 

Environment

Does your environment communicate that kids know they are liked? Is this a place for me? 

Make it unique, a space of their own. If you can’t make a room, maybe create a VIP area for just the 4th and 5th graders. The 3rd graders will build anticipation for what’s next and the preteens will feel like they have a place to belong. Will they be in the same environment for 6 years? If nothing changes in their environment, will they think the church is just for the kindergartner?

Make it Uniques

A space of their own. 

An experience of their own.  

If you can’t make a space, at least give them an experience of their own. A camp, a service project, something for them to look forward to. 

When kids get to ___ grade, they get to ___. Worship track, track without vocals, small band, full band. Where do you need to make a compromised for the sake of the kids journey? Use environments to build anticipation for what’s next. 

Get your student pastor to teach in the kids environment to champion what’s coming next. 

Make it Relevant

It’s not bells and whistles, it’s connecting it to the matter at hand. God’s word connects to today. They can’t always and consistently make this connection on their own. If it’s 2019 outside of the church walls, it should look like 2019 inside the church walls. 

How does your room or stage change? 

How does your music and preservice music change? 

Do your kids walk into the environment and feel at home?

Make it Safe

Physical safe – exits and entrances, background checks, etc. 

Emotionally safe. According to the CDC, the leading cause of death 11-15 is suicide.

We need environments that are relatable and relational. Kids need a safe place to be known and to belong. 

Programming:

Curriculum Strategy – your job is to build relationships and not to spend 90% of your time writing. 

What you’re teaching and how your teaching. 

Teach preteens in a way that…

-Builds critical thinking skills. The device in their pocket has more information than the library. Help students discern what to click on. 6 million hits where the top 5 pay google to be the top 5. 

-Develops EQ and empathy. Help students see the world through another persons point of view. Preteens are moving from concrete to abstract thinking. Know what you are saying when you say, “invite Jesus into your heart.” Consider the Bible story of Noah and then they realize this is the time where millions of people died. No longer a happy story of animals but of the death of almost everything. Hopefully, your church can be the safest place where kids can ask a question about faith. You can ask any question you want here. When they ask a hard question, they are testing to see if they can ask you a harder question. 

Format – Average attendance is between 25-40%. If there’s a different person every time they show up with they develop a relationship with someone they trust? We have to be consistent because they are not consistent. Small group and large group are important. Preteens are really bad at discussion questions, sometimes. Help small group leaders to lead with a question that frames what the students are to be thinking about. 

Events – Preteens are very capable, don’t treat them like little kids. Elevate what you allow them to do and how they can be the body of Christ. 

Volunteers: 

Roles to fill – first, small group leaders. Large group communicator is the last one to get because small group can not be done by a video. 

Recruitment – Don’t just get anybody. It needs to be the right person on the right bus. 

Training. Show how kids are learning. 

Cast vision of what’s most important. For kids to have a caring adult that points them to their creator. Cast vision for what you want. 

Parents:

Partner with parents in a way that acknowledges their day-to-day world.

The ideal time for your event isn’t 5:00, but 7 or 8:00 and with food. Know what the real world looks like in the lives of your families. 

Kristen Ivey

If you don’t continue to make it personal to someone you will lose your compassion and you will burn out. You will forget what you do matters. 

What we do is not who we are. Don’t form your identity around sin. 

Shame: The intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging. 

Shame might be the greatest tool the enemy has in his arsenal. 

God says you have purpose, shame says you aren’t good enough. 

Do you know what I’ve done? Jesus didn’t go to Zacchaeus house and say he was a good guy. Jesus knew what Zacchaeus had done and went to his house anyway. Jesus broke the shame cycle. When kids believe they are unloveable they try to prove it. 

Shame is a shallow motivator. Love is a powerful motivator. Love heals us from the inside. 

When a kid gets brave enough to share their story, the are rarely sharing the full story but testing the waters. 

Are you a safe enough place for a student to open up and share and still feel loved. 

Can we replace their shame with hope? 

“Love someone in a way that replaces shame with hope.”

Gerald Fadayomi @geraldfadayomi

Do you know what I can do? 

Potential. 

You know what a preschooler can do when you leave the room for 30 seconds. 

You know what a teenager can do when you leave them alone with their girlfriend. 

Jesus knew Peter’s story and his potential. 

He knew he would fail but also become a fisher of men. He speaks to Peter’s potential. 

Jesus get’s in the boat. Getting in the boat means showing up in their world. 

Spending less time trying to get students to show up in our church and more time trying to get volunteers to show up in their world. 

Speak to their need. Jesus gave fish. How about we teach their worth doesn’t come from instagram likes. Show them what it means to be a person who lives out integrity. Maybe they need someone to show them their worth. 

Call them to more. Not just fisherman but fishers of men. Do this for every student and every child. 

Imagine how this would change the world to make it personal? You can’t to this for everyone but you can do this for one. 

Pick a person, and make it personal.

Reggie Joiner @reggiejoiner

Everyone falls short of the glory of God. What would it look like if we recognized the potential in every human? What if we cared about the potential of every kid more than Disney? 

When you stop for one, it always impacts more than one. 

There is a ripple effect. Jesus knew that when He stopped for Zacchaeus it would impact more than one. It would impact Zacchaeus’ family, the people they impact, and the people who are watching those people. 

If you want to teach a generation then do for one. Demonstrate real friendship to one. You can’t just teach a generation how to love, you have to show them how to love.

If you never stop at the tree, you’ll never know what the story could have been. You’ll never know the potential. 

 

Recalibrate: A Book Review and Giveaway

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Your plate is full and you feel busy, but is your plate full of the right things? Are you busy for the sake of being busy, or are you actually carrying out God’s calling for your life? For your sanity, and for the sake of your church’s future, you need the clarity of recalibration in your family ministry.

Fifteen leaders in the family ministry movement came together to write Recalibrate: A New Measure for Family Ministry, and you and your team are going to love each chapter. The book aims to help you adjust and measure for healthy outcomes, to help you identify and correct unhealthy norms, and to honor God in the way you lead the families in your church.

A few of the many topics covered in the book include, “Staff and Volunteer Dynamics” by Brian Haynes, “The Art and Influence of Meaningful Conversations” by Ron Hunter, “Grandparenting the Way It Was Meant to Be” by Jim Wideman, “Youth Ministry in Thirds” by Richard Ross, “The Future Steps of Our Children” by Lydia Randall, and “When Churched Kids Don’t Have Churched Parents” by Timothy Paul Jones.

The first chapter alone is full of great insight that makes it clear right from the start just how helpful of a tool this book will be for any ministry. In this chapter, Philip Nation begins to recalibrate the big picture for family ministry by creating a discipleship culture for the family. Here are my favorite quotes from the chapter to give you a taste of how rich this content is:

“First, you need to tell the truth about the spiritual condition in families today. Second, you need to offer practices that will develop a healthy discipleship culture in the home. Finally, set reasonable measurements to know if families are embracing a discipling culture in the home.”

“Too many families live with unhealthy spiritual patterns. One question you may ask is: Do they even know it?

“Spiritual Absentia . . . Parents hold their spiritual concern for kids as an almost secretive portion of their lives. Discipleship happens but not by anyone in the family. Instead, parents act as surrogates hoping the leaders of the church will disciple their children.”

“Hobbyism . . . Parents disciple kids to believe that entertainment is the point of life. They create the worst kind of church attender—a consumer of religious goods and services rather than a servant of Christ and His mission.”

“Selective Subject Syndrome . . . The only hope is the weekend but it is consumed with extracurricular activities and the mythical “down time” hoped for by weary parents.”

“Secularization . . . Families also allow worldly wisdom to guide decision making, especially for their youngsters.”

“Romanticism . . . Personal eases becomes the end goal of it all. When the mission of God requires sacrifice and the loss of comfort, Christ’s lordship is rejected because it involves difficulty.”

“We are called to be disciples who make other disciples. You can set this as a powerful new norm for families. The spiritual work of a family is to raise disciple-making disciples that focus heart, soul, mind, and strength on loving God and living as Kingdom ambassadors.”

“Kids and students are the disciples of today who can make a powerful impact in seeking revival in the church and spiritual awakening in the culture.”

“The ‘drop off for discipleship’ model has not worked and will not work.”

“Recalibrate your leadership to move families out of survivalist tactics and entrepreneurial dreaming to raising global troublemakers for God’s kingdom.”

“Your ministry will take on new life and power when you recalibrate the expectations of what God can do through families, students, and children.”

“Your choice is between tolerating unhealthy practices of ministry and generating healthy patterns of multiplicative disciple-making. It is the age old choice between pleasing God or man.”

“Your work as a leader is to give biblical instruction that will lead to personal application.”

“Faithful living will display itself in lives characterized by such things as grace-filled relationships, moral holiness, and an increasing faith in God’s power.”

“Anyone can stay busy. Leaders must measure whether or not the ministry and the families are spiritually fruitful.”

“The ultimate fruit of your leadership is new followers of Jesus.”

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Is Your Anchor Attached to the Almighty?

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Have you ever heard a speaker address a large crowd, but knew God was using the person to speak directly to you?

I’ve attended many conferences and have heard many speakers deliver top of the line messages but for some reason, there has been one message rolling around in my head more than any other. At this year’s Belonging Conference Robert Madu said, “You don’t have a faith problem, you have an awareness of God’s authority issue.” As he spoke these words, they hit my heart deep and helped me see things about myself I’ve been missing for years.

If faith is the anchor to your life, I’ve always had a strong anchor. I hope for the things of God and see the evidence of Him lived out in my life, but an anchor needs to be attached to the boat. Robert Madu explained how the chain is your awareness of God’s authority in your life. You see, for me, I believe God has the whole world in His hands, but I fail to trust Him as the authority in my little corner of the world. What struck my heart was the need to see God as the ultimate authority in everything in my life, both big and small.

The prophet Daniel understood God as his authority and it’s evident in the scripture. Daniel 6:6-7says:

So the administrators and high officers went to the king and said, “Long live King Darius! We are all in agreement—we administrators, officials, high officers, advisers, and governors—that the king should make a law that will be strictly enforced. Give orders that for the next thirty days any person who prays to anyone, divine or human—except to you, Your Majesty—will be thrown into the den of lions.

Daniel could have lived his life under the authority of the king, but this thought never even crossed his mind. Daniel 6:10 tells us, “But when Daniel learned that the law had been signed, he went home and knelt down as usual in his upstairs room, with its windows open toward Jerusalem. He prayed three times a day, just as he had always done, giving thanks to his God.”

When the authority of the world said you must worship a certain way, Daniel knew God’s authority was bigger. When the consequence for worldly disobedience was certain death, Daniel knew God has power over death.

Everything is under the power and authority of God! And He cares deeply about your little corner of the world, just as He cared for Daniel. God Almighty can handle whatever the world is throwing at you.

The next time you feel the pressures and stresses of life weighing down on you, take a look at the chain tied to your anchor of faith and ask yourself a hard question, “Are you aware of God’s authority in this issue?”

5 Reasons Why Orange Conference is for Your Whole Team

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You have probably seen the stats and know there is a generation walking away from the church. Your whole team needs to come together and join in a fresh conversation about what disciple-making looks like in the future of the church! This year’s Orange Conference is the opportunity you need and here are 5 reasons your whole team needs to be there!

BREAKOUTS DESIGNED TO ALIGN YOUR TEAM.

If you are a preschool ministry leader you will find breakouts designed specifically for preschool ministry that teach the same concepts and truths being taught in elementary or high school ministry breakouts. Your team can then come together to discuss one general concept while each team member brings their specialized insight. Instead of walking away from a conference with dozens of competing ideas, your team will walk away with the momentum of moving the same direction. 

LOWER COSTS TO YOUR CHURCH. 

Four separate rental cars, heading four different directions, being parked in four different hotel parking lots is hard on any budget. What if those four people came together and shared the cost? Attending a conference as a team is a great way to squeeze every drop out of your ministry budget. This year, my team is even talking about tailgating lunches to have more time together and save even more money.  

APPLY WHAT YOU LEARN. 

It’s so easy to listen to a podcast, think about how great the ideas are, and do nothing with the information. When your team comes together and you share in the ideas together, it creates a layer of accountability to apply what you learn. As you talk about your sessions together you will also find your retention increases. 

ALIGN LEADERS WITH A COMMON LANGUAGE AND STRATEGY. 

I love the way Amos 3:3 says it, “Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction?” When your team comes together to grow and learn you can walk away heading the same direction. Your team will begin to measure success using the same yardstick and you will know when your team is winning. 

If culture is the soul of your organization, the Orange Conference is the soul care your team desires. Sign up now to get the best rate on Orange Conference 2020 and my team will see your team there! 

A Practical System to Be a Creative Teacher

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A Practical System to Be a Creative Teacher
by Corey Jones
Deep Dive Master Classes #6 

System: a set of principles or procedures working together as parts of a whole – an organized scheme or method.

Learning Retention Rates
Lecture 5%
Reading 10%
Audio-visual 20%
Demonstration 30%
Group Discussion 50%
Doing (including VR) 75%
Teaching Others 90%

People do tend to enjoy getting information in specific formats but it’s more about their engagement and interest.

Opposing argument – no one size fits all model. In fact, research shows that teaching students according to different learning styles has no effect on how they perform on assessments. Every time scientists have tried to prove this theory, they’ve failed.

We retain different types of information in different ways. There is truth to this though in how passive a student is and how active a student is for retention. 

Sports and Podcasts Illustration 

The goal is not information retention. The goal is disciple-making!

Teaching a lesson vs. teaching kids

You can’t teach all these ways the whole time but you can slide things in to help retain everyone. 

The role of the Holy Spirit

John 14:26 “But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you.”

The best I’ve ever taught vs the best they’ve ever listened. 

System – a set of principles and procedures, an organization method. You have a high calling. A huge responsibility. But it’s not all on you. So ask your helper for help. 

SIGHT (VISUAL SYSTEM)

Felt Board
Comic Book Clips
Movie Scene
YouTube Clips
Speechless or Pantomime
Story Pictures
Art
Whiteboard
Blacklight Art
You as the Character
Gameshow or Quiz

HEARING (AUDITORY SYSTEM)

Whose Line Is It Anyway Sound Effects
Seat Sections Make Certain Sounds
Sound Jar
Opera Singing
Karaoke
Recorded Sound Effects
Voiceover
Bring in a Guest Character
Action News Reporter

MOVEMENT (VESTIBULAR SYSTEM)

Kids as Actors
Cue Cards
Action Figures
Acting
Hats
Use the Room as Props

TOUCH (TACTILE SYSTEM)

Object Lesson
Clothesline
Prop Box Costumes
Small Group Leader Statues
Kids Sketch Scenes
Story Boxes

TASTE AND SMELL (GUSTATORY AND OLFACTORY SYSTEM)

Flavors
Candles or scents
Scratch and Sniff Stickers
Imagine the taste

BODY AWARENESS (PROPRIOCEPTION SYSTEM)

Hunger
Swallow
Breathe
Balance
Pressure
Weight
Temperature
Time
Light & Darkness

Other

Audience Participation
Repetition
Mystery
Imagination

The foundation of good teaching is always good communication.

Watch yourself. Hit record and then watch yourself and your class. 

Daniel 11:32b, “But the people who know their God will display strength and take action!”

Slides: A Practical System to Be a Creative Teacher-2 

General Session Notes from #D62019

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General Session 1

RUSSELL MOORE – @drmoore
The Cross as Family Crisis

John 19:16-36

In family, we have the possibility of experiencing a blessing as well as having our hearts completely broken. 

As Jesus is being crucified, family is all over this story. Because Jesus, as He is being crucified is able to look and see His mother. 

God through the family, has prepared Jesus for this moment. The beautify and the horror of what it means to be a family in a broken world. 

We need to get to a place of vulnerability in our families so we can lead people to the cross.

There’s no such thing as a Christian that is all alone.

Jesus is at the cross because He did not live up to His families expectations.

Honor and love family by not putting family first. 

In secularized America, we sometimes put too much emphasis on family. 

The prosperity Gospel of the family. Constantly Instagrammable family, if I do right. This is not what Scripture teaches. 

Because the FAMILY is the signpost for the Kingdom of God it is one of the most intense arenas for spiritual warfare.

JON FORREST – @jondforrest
Fight

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It’s not chill the good chill, it’s fight the good fight.

Lazarus, Mary, and Martha. 

If you spend more time being angry at people not doing what they are supposed to be doing than being in awe of Jesus, you need some recalibration.

Jesus doesn’t stop Mary from opening up with jar of perfume. He is worth it. That is not an offering too large for our Savior. 

PHILIP NATION – @philipnation
Building Great Habits of Discipleship

We’ve got to rework how it is we naturally go about these kinds of things. 

We must move past the bad habits of discipleship and move to the good habits found in Phillipians 2. 

Bad habits of discipleship:

#1 The library – We think discipleship is just knowledge transfer. 

#2 The metronome – Behavior modification. 

#3 The carousel – Entertainment – Bright and moving but going no where. 

“Therefore, my dear friends, as you have always obeyed–not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence–continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.” Philippians 2:12-13

4 things for you to hold onto and apply. 

1. The habit of growth

“As you have always obeyed.” No one drifts towards holiness. It’s quite the opposite. We slowly move away. Make growth a habit. Exert every muscle in your being. Hurt the next day. It’s why they’re called spiritual disciplines. Work at your salvation. 

2. The habit of worship

“not only in my presence, but now much more in my absence.” What if the radical living we are called to by the radical Christ is where worship is the norm? Jesus wasn’t soft on sin. Both congregationally and moment by moment of the trusting God. What happens in your family and in your life when worship becomes habitual and just normal? Fear and trembling looking to Christ. 

3. The habit of submission. 

“Continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling, for it is God who works in you.” It’s not a transitional but a transformative relationship with God. What if we had a habitual submission to the power of God? Our relationship with God is an absolute surrender of control to the power of God who is working within you. The spiritual disciples are not the goal, Jesus is. 

4. The Habit of Mission

“for it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.” Romans 1:5 our work is to bring about obedience to the faith. God is at work in you and adjusting your will, you attitude, your wants, and your desires. Work on the mission of me or the mission of God. Work out of the flesh or the Kingdom of God. Pivot the people of God from being consumers to missionaries. 

Put your yes on the table and then ask God what’s up for discussion. 

General Session 2

PAM TEBOW
The Ripple Effects of Living Out Deuteronomy Six

Be sure you are intentionally impacting others with the gospel by how you live your life. 

If you want to possibly impact the people around you, you need to be intentional. This is the ripple effect, you impact someone who impacts someone else.

We don’t know the impact God’s Word will have on our kids. 

Teach children if they want to have a positive impact on others, they use live their lives in a way that follows the Gospel. 

Love kids unconditionally as God has loved us unconditionally.  

Psalm 62 is my security scripture. We need security because there are a lot of storms in life. 

We wanted our children to know that God’s Word has made us adequate for what He Has planned for us to do.

Find your security Bible verses, know that God is your refuge.

Children are a gift from the Lord. We had a game plan along the way, which was based on teaching our kids the Word of God and loving them unconditionally as God loves us.

CHRISTOPHER YUAN – @christopheryuan
A Prodigal and His Parents’ Journey to the Father

When you encounter Christ, He will impact every area of your life.

Nothing is more important than following Christ.

A powerful and dangerous prayer: Lord, do whatever it takes to bring this prodigal son to you. 

“God’s kindness leads us toward repentance.” Romans 2:4

God’s Word is the most powerful sword to pierce even the hardest of hearts that are full of sin.

What we have in our Bibles is not just ink on paper. It is the very breath of God.

I stopped letting my desires control who I am and instead surrendered to Jesus.

My identity should not be defined by my sexuality. My identity MUST be in Jesus Christ alone.

The question is not “When is it too early to talk about sexuality with our kids?” But in 2019, “When is it too late?”

The opposite of homosexuality isn’t heterosexuality, it’s holiness. 

The opposite of every sin struggle is holiness! Change is not the absence of temptations, but to surrender and seek holiness in Jesus.

Holy Sexuality and the Gospel Book https://christopheryuan.com/books/holy-sexuality-and-the-gospel/ 

Out of a Far Country Book https://christopheryuan.com/books/out-of-a-far-country/ 

To Parents of Prodigals:
You are not
the cure.
You are not the cause.
The goal of Christian parents is not to produce godly children, but to be godly parents. 

Parents, Adam and Eve had the perfect Father and the perfect environment and they still failed. 

General Session 3

RON HUNTER – @ronhunter
The Art of Meaningful and Influential Conversations With Your Kids

Without relationship, there is no influence.

Being related is not the same as a relationship.

Why don’t we enter into our kid’s world rather than try to force them to enter ours?

Kids let electronics be the barrier. Parents let kids with the electronics be the barrier. 

Extroverts

Introverts 

James 3:1-2 Influence of Speech

Proverbs 17:27-28 reduce negative (wear down)

Colossians 4:6 Full of Grace (seasoned with salt)

Ephesians 4:29 Build up others (our kids)

Talk – The ingredients of a conversation. 

Topic – high/low or best/worse or made/sad/glad

Ask – tennis ball game – What made it bad or good? Ask follow up questions. Say, “Tell me more.” Say, “Help me understand that or what do you think should have happened.” Teach them how to think about what went on and learn from it for next time. 

Listen: Your kids can tell if you’re actually concerned or not. Conversation is not one way. 

Kudos: Let them hear 60-80% of who they are rather than what they have done. Teacher picks career path. 

Abe – Formula for Meaningful Conversations 

Lincoln tackled the tough topics with a great tone. He measured his words and understood the power of the tongue. 

Approach – Two keys, intentionality and attitude. Schedule your family time. Table Time is valued over vacations and other family activities by kids. Connect with your kids instead of correcting your kids. 

Brain – Share more than truth with them, share the reasoning that helped you arrive at the conclusion. 

Emotion – Dime vs. Nickel “As seen on TV” Because a child learns through relationships…that’s where they adopt values of those they respect. 

General Session 4

JIM WIDEMAN – @jimwideman
GrandPartners

Deuteronomy 6 wasn’t just written to pastors, it was written to parents and parents who happen to be pastors. 

What if the church and the home had another partner? 

“Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them fade from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.” Deuteronomy 4:9

God has always had a purpose and a plan for everything He has done.

Have you ever heard of a church that offered training for a grandparent? 

God is giving you a second chance to correct your parenting mistakes. 

Parents need support, this is why naturally there are 4 grandparents and 2 parents. 

Grandfriends: Those who are adopted grandparents to pass on the faith to the next generation. 

We have an opportunity to meet this mission field like never before. Are we going to take advantage of this partner to leverage what we are called to do in family ministry? God is calling us to help grandparents and grandfriends to be the partner God is calling them to be. 

LISSY RIENOW
An Insider Look at Building Heart Connection Within Families

Malachi 4:5-6 

“Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet

Before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord.

And he will turn

The hearts of the fathers to the children,

And the hearts of the children to their fathers,

Lest I come and strike the earth with a curse.”

My family, who loves me the most, get to see the absolute worst of my personality. 

Who you are at home, is who you really are.

My character needs some serious improvements. I need to grow in Christlikeness. 

Relationship has to come before discipleship. Relationship is the foundation. 

So many teenagers have expressed to me they wished their parents would take more initiative to pray and talk about their faith with them at home.

Family discipleship doesn’t stop with you as parents. It’s an all in family mission with Christ.

MICHAYLA WHITE – @michaylawhite
Millennial Parents of Faith

Millennials…
Parents are boomers
Most diverse generation’
Largest living generation
Highly educated
Digital natives. 

These are just facts, not context! 

Have you ever been to a movie late?

What do they think about the church?
Barna Group Research

Nomads: 18-29-year-olds with a Christian background who have walked away from church engagement yet still consider themselves Christian. 

Prodigals: 18-29-year-olds who have a Christian background but have lost their faith, describing themselves as “no longer Christian.”

Exiles: 18-29-year-olds who have a Christian background and are still invested in their Christian faith but feel stuck (or lost) between culture and the church. 

98.6% of millennial parents highly agree it is very important to me that my children grow up to know, love, and serve Jesus. 

29.6% of millennial parents highly agree I make reading my Bible a regular part of my day. 

We want our kids to love Jesus but don’t understand what discipleship looks like in an everyday life. 

Not committed to our programs but they are committed to relationships. 

They need a teammate and they need someone to pass them the baton. 

Dorsey’s 3 Factors for Millennial Employer Loyalty 

First Impressions – Many Millennial decide on the first day of work whether they can imagine themselves being there long term. 

Clear Path of Engagement – Millennials want to understand the organization quickly and desire to be provided with specific examples of the performance you expect. 

Regular Feedback – Frequent, clear, specific feedback is the way Millennials gauge their effectiveness it builds their connection to their role. 

When it comes to decision making for committing to a church home…Millennial Parents Prioritize:

1. Theological Alignment 

2. Children’s Ministry

3. Preaching and Worship

Safety + Security – aligns with Dorsey’s first impression. #1 concern of Millennial parents when rising a church with their kids. 

Ethos: hospitality and inclusion – aligns with Dorsey’s ease of engagement. #2 concern of Millennial parents when visiting a church with their kids. They need to feel like they belong from the start. When a child is known and loved. 

Disclosure + discipleship relationships – aligns with Dorsey’s individual feedback. #3 concern of Millennial parents when rising a church with their kids. 

Millennial parents of faith will commit to a church that commits wholeheartedly to their children. 

The Silver Bullet:
Invest in their children
Invite their parents over to dinner
Pass the baton

Family means we do more than one meal together. 

JIM PUTMAN – @JimPutmanRLM
Discipleship in the Four Spheres

You people are the heroes in the church…especially you Junior High Pastors.  

How do we create a church from the top down that creates disciples? 

The reason our kids are stumbling and falling is because our parents weren’t discipled in the first pace to understand the role of discipling their own kids. They went to church instead of experiencing being the church.

You cannot divorce the teachings of Jesus from the methods of Jesus and get the same results of Jesus.

The reason we don’t have disciple-making parents is because we don’t have disciple-making churches.

Most Christians reveal their immaturity, by the fact that they are isolated. 

The reason they (kids) don’t buy Jesus is because they know it’s not working for their parents. In the recipe of the faith they (the parents) have left out major components. 

What if we changed the structure of our churches where every door leads to relational environments where people are living out the truth? 

General Session 5

JEFFERSON BETHKE – @JeffersonBethke
Why Rhythms and Story Can Save Your Marriage and Family

What does it look like to live in Rhythm and Story? An identity given around a ritual.

We are what we worship.

Endless doing. Workaholics. Never a finish line until you die.

The biblical model of time
A spiral that goes forward.
God has a timeline but he also is a God of rhythm and cadence. A daily, weekly, yearly way.
Leads to progressive being. Identity centric. More and more formed into the image of Jesus.

When does the day actually start according to God? There was evening and morning the first day. Starts form the position of rest. Then once we are rested we can go work.

We were actually created to submit to sessions. You will flourish best when you submit to rest.

The American idea is to never be limited by anything ever. God operates differently and wants us to submit.

Amish people live in a daily, weekly, and yearly cadence.
Centers the songs, stories, and truth in the home. Usually read by a parent at the table, unpacking their identity ritualistically over a meal. What is the retention rate of the Amish household? How likely they will remain Amish? 95-97%.

Jewish retention is 95%.

Barna for evangelicals. The highest number 37%. 11% are resilient disciples.

What’s different about these different people groups?

Rituals give you an identity and you usually don’t leave an identity.

Evangelical Holiest Holidays: Christmas and Easter. A big event, a lot of people, and one person on stage.

Highest Holiest Moments in the Jewish Community: Passover and other events that happen at home around the dinner table where someone shares a story and they eat.

7 Billion total people and 15 million Jewish. .2% of the population. Nobel Prize 30%. Pulitzer 25%. Patient files 50%.

When you’re told from age zero identity wrapped in ritual it creates retention.

What would it look like if we as church leaders equipped people to center their homes to be the disciple-making machine? We can be an enormous helping tool but the family is where it happens.

Daily. Breakfast Benediction.
Put your hands up as and receive.
“I’m not what I do. I’m not what I have. I’m not what other people say about me. I am the beloved of God. It’s who I am. No one can take it from me. I don’t have to worry. I don’t have to hurry. I can trust my friend Jesus. And share His love with the world.”
Give them mm’s and this ritual will change their life forever. 25 seconds every day.

Weekly. The Steak
What is something you’re trying to make the high point moment of every week? Usually something individualistic. If you’re married the peek moment should be with the family as a deeply ritualistic shaping device.
Shabbat
Sabbath is not our burnout recovery day.
2 candles: Cease and Celebrate
You are not what you do if you believe it prove it one day a week. Do you really believe God has it?
Delight. Get out the nice china. Drink the best wine. Joy and delight. What would it look like if every 7 days you threw a party for your family or your marriage?
A day of intentional rest and celebration.
A day of the work is done. Enjoy and be blessed.

Yearly. Family Summit
Lev 23. Crafted holidays to create a story. You were once this, now you’re this. Identity.
Every year at the end of the year think about your family as more important than a business. There are yearly meetings. They do new product. They evaluate. What will 2020 be for my marriage? Does he have a word for us this year? Does he have a practice for us this year? Identity Shaping Rituals.

American Secular Cultural Holidays: Apple. We are ritualistic creatures. We look at our phones first thing every day. Yearly they have their Sept event. Keynote and new iPhone.

On the last day of Jesus, He gathers His disciples for a meal. He tells a story at a table. He makes it a rhythm and tells them to do it when they gather.

KANDI GALLATY – @KandiGallaty
Leading By Example: How Being a Disciple Helps Us Disciple Our Families

Our kids learn everything they do by watching us.

Being a disciple is a lifestyle; it’s not something you turn on and off.

What’s truly important is us leading ourselves well. And if we lead ourselves well, we will be able to lead others well.

2 Timothy 3:14-17
“But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, and how from infancy you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.”

A parent needs to be intentional in the investment of his or her family.

2 Timothy 1:5
I am reminded of your sincere faith, which first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice and, I am persuaded, now lives in you also.”

An abiding presence that dwelt in them at all times.

Acts 16:1
Paul came to Derbe and then to Lystra, where a disciple named Timothy lived, whose mother was Jewish and a believer but whose father was a Greek.

He was already a disciple when Paul met him, most likely because of his mother and grandmother.

Car Ride: Never get out of the car without a prayer. Healthy, safe, and a happy day. Maximize the time you have with them. Set the pace for their day.

Meal Time – it doesn’t have to look like a traditional big family meal but it needs to be a priority.

Bed Time – no kids want to go to bed.

Family Game Time – everything else can wait and we can spend time with the family.

Time equals transparency. Time spent now means they will open up to us later. We want to be intentional with them now so it will matter to them when they are older.

As a parent, you are your kids greatest advocate.

Don’t treat your Bible like it’s a keepsake box. Open it and spend time with Jesus.

25% of church-going Christians read the Bible. Of the 25% who read only read 8 books of the Bible.

Idle time becomes idol time.

We just need to be with Jesus, to be changed and become more like Him.

H.E.A.R. formula bible journaling: Highlight, Explain, Apply, and Respond.

Discipleship is a lifestyle.

Matthew 28:18b-20
“All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”

Breakout Notes from #D62019

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Breakout 1 – Jim Wideman – @jimwideman

Reaching The Kids That Live At Your House

Work hard at making the Gospel fun in the church AND work hard at making Christianity fun in the home. 

1. I am so thankful that God called me into the ministry & particularly to Kids & Family Ministry.

2. I’m also thankful God called me to be Julie’s Husband, Yancy & Whitney’s Dad, Cory & Nigel’s Father-in-love, & Sparrow & Rhythm’s G.

3. It matters to God how you manage your ministry & your family. Your kids are your greatest ministry. 

 1. Too many ministers are married to the church and date their family. I believe it’s important to be married to your family and date the church.

 2. My family is 2nd on my priority list, 1st is my relationship with Christ. 

 3. My ministry is priorities 3, 4, & 5

 •My pastors’ problems

 •The level of leadership directly under me 

 •Everything else about ministry

4. When it comes to reaching the kids that live at your house as well as the kids at your church, “What happens at home is more important than what happens at church.”

5. Deuteronomy 6: 6-7 “These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” Impress means intentional. Don’t be more intentional at church than you are at work. Be married to your family and date the church, not the other way around. 

6. Let your family be your greatest sermon (If you aim at nothing you’ll hit it every time!) Make a list of things you want your family to be known for. 

7. 12 Things You Can Do To Connect With Your Kids For Life 

 1. Make Jesus the king of your house not just your heart

 1. Be the example of living the word they see (Father & Parent like God) 

 2. Let faith be caught not just taught

 3. Make Jesus an everyday part of your lives (Never did devotions)

 4. Use the tools you tell your church parents to use at your house

 5. Give them the Word and do not allow strongholds or attitudes to be formed  

 6. Model making choices based on the word & prayer

 7. Teach your children how to hear God’s voice

 8. Be a worshiper at home not just at church

 2. Love your spouse the way you want your children’s spouse to love them

 1. Adore your spouse

 2. Model love (Be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another

 3. Whatever you did to win their affection is what you do to keep their affection

 3. Spend lots of time with your kids (at home & at church)

 1. Ephesians 5:15 Be very careful, then, how you live –not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity. 

 2. Master time management

 • Act like your time belongs to you

 • Live by Priorities

 • Make appointments by your priority

 • Evaluate how you spend your time (identify time wasters)

 • Know how many nights you are willing to work at the church. Block time off. Plan things with your family. 

 3. Making time for your family has to be a lifestyle choice (watch your nights) 

 1. Daily

 • In-person

 • On the phone (FaceTime) 

 2. Weekly

 • Dates

 • Rituals (Saturday/ Sunday Lunches)

 • Family Outings

 • Include your kids on errands 

 • Make time off fun

 3. Special Times

 • Events and happenings they choose 

 • Events and happenings you choose

 4. Be consistent in your discipline

 1. The keyword is consistent

 2. Correct tell why

 3. Punish (different ways with different kids and at different ages) AND reward them when you catch them doing right!  

 4. Pray with them

 5. Hug them, tell them you love them 

 6. Move on

 5. Seek to understand how God has made each of your children & grandchildren differently and allow them to be different (Personality test help)

 • Different is good!

 • Teach them to serve  

 • Teach them to work

 6. Find each of your children’s natural giftings and bends and encourage them in it.

 Identify God’s call & purpose

 • Proverbs 22:6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it

 • Encourage- to inspire with courage, spirit, or hope. To spur on; to give help to

 7. Learn about their world, their interest, their music, their styles. When you care about their interests they’ll care about yours. 

 “Because I take the time to ask Fortnite questions to my grandson, he asks me questions about the Bible.” 

 • Be truly interested

 • Dare to learn about what they like

 • Be all in

 8. Admit your mistakes. When you’re wrong make corrections. (Ask for their forgiveness) Ask them to pray for you. There’s a huge difference between I’m sorry and Godly repentance. 

 9. Talk to your children about everything. Be open and honest. 

 (Establish an open-door policy early)

 • Talk about your mistakes and temptations. Have you ever noticed that the devil attacks family the same way? Prepare them. 

 • If the devil tempted you in an area, you can rest assured he’s going to tempt them in the same area

 • Don’t overreact when they express views that are different or wrong.

 (Don’t freak out)

 • Don’t forget what it was like to be their age

 10. Make their friends welcome in your home 

 • Include them in your time with your kids 

 • Invest in your kids’ friends

 11. Don’t open the door for rebellion in your children by rebelling against authorities in your lives

 • Always side with authority

 • Children are masters of managed information 

 • Never lie to your children about anything

 • If this has been an issue, repent.

 12. Don’t exasperate your children

 • Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. 

 • What does exasperate mean?

 1). to excite or inflame the anger of: enrage 

 2). to cause irritation or annoyance to 

 1. Don’t forget what it was like to be a teen

 2. Set boundaries and let them earn your trust (check up on them, but be fair) 

 3. Let the punishment fit the crime

 4. Don’t put unrealistic expectations on your kids

 5. Don’t have one set of rules for them & another for yourself

8. It’s never too late to make the right choices

 If you’re not dating your spouse, you need to be.

 Whatever you did to win your spouse’s affection, continue it today!

 Let her know there is no one you love more than her, including the church. 

 If your pastor wants the church to be a priority over your family, you’re working for the wrong church. 

 1. We serve a God who is the God of a second chance 

 2. Where do you need to make changes?

 3. Let’s pray

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Breakout 2 – Jim Wideman – @jimwideman 

Resourcing Grandparents To Pass Their Faith To the Next Generation

Very few churches have a ministry to grandparents or mobilize grandparents. This is a mission field.

1. Thanks/ notes/ Intro family/ Whose in the room?

2. Many churches today focus on 1 generation

 1. God of Abraham, Isaac, & Jacob

 2. Multigenerational ministry – This makes the church balanced. 

 3. Every generation can be influenced by each other

3. More grandparents are living on the earth than at any other time in history

4. What do we know about being a grandparent? 

 1. It’s more than wonderful

 2. Grandkids are better than your kids

 3. It’s the reward for not killing the first bunch 

 4. You can send them home when you get tired

 Love your grandkids by giving them the same rules at your house as they have at their parent’s house. 

5. Grandparent ministry today offers the same opportunities and potential that children’s ministry did when I started over 40 years ago.

 1. More than 70 million grandparents currently in the U.S.

 2. Only 30 million indicate attending church (43%)

 3. There are 108.7 million people 50 years old & above in the U.S.

6. Fun facts that you may not know from AARP’s latest report 

 1. About one-third of all adults are grandparents.

   2. The average age of becoming a grandparent is around 47.

 3. The average age of grandparents is around 64.

 4. The average grandparent has six grandchildren

 5. About 77% of grandparents are married.

 6. About half are still working.

 7. A slight majority, 54%, have at least some college education.

 8. About 6% of grandparents have a grandchild living in their home.

 9. Parents are not present in around 43% of those homes, a phenomenon known as a skip-generation family. How is your church helping grandparents who are the primary caretaker for kids? Help with childcare, car clinics, date nights, back to school events. 

 10. About 15 % provide regular childcare for grandchildren in their homes.

 11. More than half of grandparents help with grandchildren’s educational expenses.

  12. A little less than half of the grandparents help with grandchildren’s living expenses.

  13. A quarter of grandparents help pay for medical or dental care for their grandchildren.

 14. More than half of all grandparents believe they play a very important role in their grandchildren’s lives. What if we could change this to 100% by letting them know?

 7. Grandparents Matter

  1. Grandparents are incredibly important to their grandkids.

 2. Grandparents are uniquely positioned to spiritually influence their grandkids.

 3. Grandparents have a Biblical mandate to do so.

 4. Have you ever wondered why God designed for the family to have 2 parents & 4 grandparents? Maybe parents really do need more support? What would happen if the church can come alongside grandparents and grad-friends to help bear this burden? 

8. If God designed the role of Parent & Grandparent what was His purpose?

  1. Deuteronomy 6:1-7 These are the commands, decrees and laws the Lord your God directed me to teach you to observe in the land that you are crossing the Jordan to possess, 2 so that you, your children and their children after them may fear the Lord your God as long as you live by keeping all his decrees and commands that I give you, and so that you may enjoy long life. 3 Hear, Israel, and be careful to obey so that it may go well with you and that you may increase greatly in a land flowing with milk and honey, just as the Lord, the God of your ancestors, promised you. 4 Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 5 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 6 These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

  2. Deuteronomy 4:9 “Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them fade from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.”

  3. Have you ever thought that the purpose of every Jewish celebration, Holiday and Feast day can be summed up in one thing; “Remember what the Lord has done, and teach it to your children.”

 All Jewish Holidays & Feasts can be summed up in one thing “Remember what I’ve done & teach it to your children!”

 Write down God stories on the back of pictures or else those memories and God stories will be gone when grandparents pass away. Pass those God stories on. If you don’t get intentional then your whole families Biblical history can be lost with the passing of the patriarchs. 

 9. Grandparents must be intentional to pass on their family’s God Story to future generations! (Sparrow & Rhythm’s story) 

 10. The Church & Home have a Grand partner and it’s time that we invite them to the conversation.

 11. Service is over but church is not…

 (Why do parents & grandparents want better for their children in every area except spiritual things?)

 12. We must recalibrate how the church & the homework together

 1. Old model: The church teaches & the home reinforce.

  2. New model: The home teaches & the church reinforce.

In the Family Ministry Movement, we talk a lot about partnering with parents but what if we realized the Church & the Home have another partner…Grandparents? 

Service is over, church is not. 

13. We must recalibrate Grandparenting

 1. Old model: Spoil, send home all hyped up, my house, my rules.

 2. New model: Train, all in, partner, same rules, transfer faith.

14. How do we start the recalibration process within the church?

 1. Start the conversations…

 2. Encourage mentoring, seek out Grandfriends…

 3. Start a small group or Sunday School Class

 4. Offer Grandparenting classes. (Close/Distance)

 5. Offer technology training (involve the youth)

 6. Include Grandparents in child dedications…

 7. Offer multigenerational events church-wide

 8. Offer Grandparent events & activities

 9. Present Grandparents Bibles to pass on…

 10. Throw first-time Grandparents a Baby Shower

 11. Encourage older adults in serving in kids & youth

 12. Join the Legacy Coalition! (www.legacycoalition.com)

15. Deuteronomy 4:9 Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them fade from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.

16. BE INTENTIONAL AT CHURCH & HOME!

Write down your own God story. 

Start conversations with your church and let this be part of the partnering verbiage that comes from your pulpit. 

We as the church pass on the faith and make disciples. 

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Breakout 3 – Lena Wooten – @Lena_W

Developing a Thriving Family Ministry

1/168 – If we are lucky families are in church 1 hour of the 168 hour week. What are we doing to make disciples during the other 167 hours? 

1. Integrated Family Curriculum 

Birth through Grandparenting. 

 D6, Orange, David C. Cook, LifeWay, and others. 

2. Email and Social Media

D6 Family App is a great resource for families. Family Fun Questions. 

Splink: Spiritual Linking. Help families spiritually link to each other regardless of their age. A free resource to start spiritual conversations. 

3. Family Events

InstaHunt – Instagram Scavenger Hunt. Gave papers after church with things for the family to go do and post. Take items and spell out your families last name. Reenact a scene from frozen, etc. Use the church hashtag. Gather at 5:00 and eat ice cream where the photos shared based on a hashtag on the screen. 

Gingerbread House Making Party – at a local elementary gathered empty milk cartons for the base of the house. Gram crackers, icings, candy, and let kids sit with their families to decorate the houses. 

Family Camp Out – at the church on a Saturday Night. Smores, hot dogs, and then go into church together smelling like a campfire. 

4. Devotionals

Share the Bible App Devotionals. 

52 Creative Family Time Devotions – 1 a week for a year and things around the house that can be done in under 5 minutes. 

5. D6+

Being pulled in so many directions is torture. 

Ministry is full of Discipleship, vision, lessons, leaders, events, budgets, stages, small groups, volunteers, meetings, teaching, curriculum, supplies, etc… What if there were resources to help you? Pain points for parents. 

Volunteer Training – Give the info and then in the P.S. include a quick info tip they need to see. 

Parent toolboxes being printed in snail mail. Magnet sent to the family as a reminder for spiritual conversations. 

Your volunteers are ministers, not babysitters. Communicate this to them and help them buy into the value of this position. 

6. Parenting Seminar

Right Now Media has resources if you are not able to bring someone in. 

FamJam – Sunday after church. Lunch provided. Jim Wideman and Dr. Ron Hunter came in to teach. Free event. Children’s classes covered by teenagers who made money. 45 minutes each and workshops by people in the church. Marriage, preschool, young adults, etc.  

7. Parenting Resource Hub

An area in the church for parents to find recourses. 

Creating a Parenting Resource Center in Your Church on a Budget – https://d6family.com/creating-a-parenting-resource-center-in-your-church-on-a-budget/ 

8. Family Fun Nights

Give a giant list of ideas: 

Have a family devotional

Game night

Build a snowman

Pack a picnic

Go on a family bike ride

Fly a kite

Make a bird feeder

Watch old home movies

Hang out around the fire-pit

Read a book together

Pull out sleeping bags and have an indoor campout

Roast marshmallows in your fireplace and make s’mores

Throwball in the back yard

Have a Nerf battle

Go ice skating

Shoot some hoops

Have a dance party

Pitch a tent in your back yard

Make a fort in your living room

Draw a family portrait

Paint a picture to hang in your home

Play hide and seek

Make homemade ice cream

Have an outdoor movie night

Go to Goodwill and pick out an outfit for each other to wear

Make play dough creations

Go on a hike

Play four square

Do a puzzle

Try Geocaching

Make a time capsule

Watch the sunset

Have a craft night

Look at family photo albums together

Make your own pizza night

Go swimming

Have a lip sync battle

Write letters to each other

Plant a garden

Make a meal for someone who is sick

Play charades

Play Frisbee together

Create sidewalk chalk masterpieces

Go stargazing

Make a craft from Pinterest together

Go bowling

You do not have to be a parent to disciple children.  

 

Breakout 4 – Michayla White – @michaylawhite

Developing Spiritual Practices in Children 

Michayla’s Calling: Shape the future of the Church by connecting leaders who serve kids and families to what they need. 

Key factors for spiritual formation. 

Foundations for Discipleship of Children 

What happens when a child comes to faith in Jesus? 

 New Creation – The old has passed away, the new has come! They have been given righteousness through faith in Jesus Christ. 

Coheirs with Christ – Sons, daughters, with full rights of a natural heir.

Peace with God – They have peace with the Holy God of the universe through His blameless son, Jesus Christ.

The indwelling of the Holy Spirit – God’s love has been poured into their hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to them. 

Spiritual Gifts – They have spiritual gifts to share with the Body as evidence of God’s grace to all of us. 

Conquerors – They are more than conquerors through Him who loves them. 

Prepared in Advance to Bring Him glory – Before the foundations of the earth was laid, they were prepared for the glory of the Lord!

Fellow Disciples – When a child comes to Jesus, they are welcomed by God and are fellow disciples with us. 

Romans 11:33-36

Oh, the depth of the riches of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable his judgments, and his paths beyond tracing out! “Who has known the mind of the Lord? Or who has been his counselor?” “Who has ever given to God, that God should repay them?” For from him and through him and for him are all things. To him be the glory forever! Amen.

The proper response to the Gospel is praise. 

Do they really understand what they’re doing? 

 This is His work we are invited to participate in. 

“Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God.” Romans 10:17

If a child is truly trusting in Christ, his fruit will be evident over time. 

Passing on the knowledge of God is a community mandate to all believers. 

What does it look like for us to nurture thriving relationships with Jesus? 

If we are not careful, we can unwittingly pass on facts to our kids, and fail to pass on faith.

Romans 8: 27-29

“And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God. And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers and sisters.”

Mark 12:28-31

One of the teachers of the law came and heard them debating. Noticing that Jesus had given them a good answer, he asked him, “Of all the commandments, which is the most important?” “The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”

“Christian spiritual formation for children is the lifelong process by which the Holy Spirit serves as the child’s teacher, deepening the child’s relationship with God, transforming the child into Christlikeness, generating an overflow of love toward God and others.”

From Kidz At Heart Intl. 

The fruit of Christian spiritual formation for kids is Christlikeness and this can coincide with their development. 

The child’s view of God is started at conception. 

Psalm 51:6 “Yet you desired faithfulness even in the womb; you taught me wisdom in that secret place.”

Psalm 139:13-14

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

Knowledge isn’t necessarily sufficient evidence of spiritual health. Are you growing in love for God and others? 

Know God’s story – Follow his instructions

We demonstrate spiritual formation. 

This is a whole lifelong process. We are formed every day, either spiritually or not. 

We are drawn to the way of Jesus or we are drawn another way. 

The world and the enemy is actively opposed to the Christian spiritual formation of children…It desires to create a spiritual life that is asleep or directly opposed to the hope and love and intimacy of Jesus.

The Kingdom of God needs to be their worldview-not the temporary, fleeting, empty narrative of the world; but the eternal, satisfying, and FULL narrative of the gospel. 

Who God is, who we are, and the extent Jesus took to bring us back to Him. 

Relationships 

A demonstration of balance on one foot and being knocked over. Then being protected. Then being surrounded. With an even bigger circle, there was more protection. What did you see going on here? Everyone in the community brings the best opportunity to stay standing. Healthy relationships. Adults can only take children where they are going themselves. A side by side journey together. 

Believing the right things and doing the right things vs. falling in love with Jesus. 

If you are in love with Jesus how did that happen? What’s your story? What made the difference for you? Communication, time, presence, sacrifice, mercy, forgiveness. The same things that grew your relationship with your spouse. 

Environments and Experience

The pace of life is a big issue today. Over-scheduled. They need models that show the pace of a disciple. Evaluate the pace of our home and maybe even Sunday morning. Focused or distracting environments. Learning requires us to create an environment but making space for children to connect with God is another thing entirely. 

Biblical Literacy

Utilize multiple intelligence. 

Include the Holy Spirit as teacher and trust Him. What if we invited the children to listen to God more than to us? 

Allow the Holy Spirit to help the child to make connections. 

What is discipleship? 

Emulation – A disciple’s actions were expected to be consonant with his rabbi. 

Diligence – Diligent in observing, diligent in learning from, and consistent in practicing what their rabbi practiced. 

Much more than feeling and much more than a set of actions, it was a commitment to look like Him and walk like Him. 

Scripture – reading or hearing and trusting the God-breathed words of Scripture as our guide and source for life. 

Matthew 4:4

Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.

Hebrews 4:12

For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.

We need to make sure that they see how much we love the Word and that we love taking the time to read it. Make sure there are age-appropriate Bibles in the house. 

Ask: Did God ask you to do something. Invite their response to that scripture. 

Ask: What do you think you should do having heard that scripture? Internalize the word. 

At church help them by encouraging their imagination and act it out. Don’t micromanage this part. 

Say, imagine what it would be like to _____. Get them to wonder why. Encourage curiosity. Don’t be afraid if things don’t go as planned. 

Small groups where they read the passage together. Slow them down in their pace of reading through the scripture. Have them repeat it multiple times. It’s not how much of the scripture we can get through but how much of the scripture is getting through to them. 

Prayer – hang continual conversations with God. 

Mark 14:35-36, 39

Going a little farther, he fell to the ground and prayed that if possible the hour might pass from him. “Abba, Father,” he said, “everything is possible for you. Take this cup from me. Yet not what I will, but what you will.” Once more he went away and prayed the same thing.

John 11:1-13 Lazarus

Draw pictures of those who you want to remember to pray for. 

Writers can start prayer journals 

You can go on a prayer walk as a family. Point those things out. Ask the kids to point them out. 

Fill in the blank prayer is a great practice. “Today I want to thank God for _______.” Today, God I am worried about _______. Today God I wonder about _______. 

Worship – declaring the greatness of the Father and demonstrating love for the King.

John 4:23

Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in the Spirit and in truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks.

Matthew 26:30

“When they had sung a hymn, they went out to the Mount of Olives.”

Mark 14:26

More than just singing, is there anything you see about how great God is. Worship is public and private. When you realize there is something you are thankful with God about, name it there. 

Ask: What did you notice about God today? 

Break up worship at your church. Worship response station. A blessing station with printed promises of God. Pull one, read it, and ask how it makes you feel about God. 

Service – overflowing with His love and compassion to others in the form of action especially those in need. 

Mark 9:35

Mark 10:44-45

This doesn’t work unless you are modeling it first. If our hearts aren’t overflowing it will be impossible to model and it’s a costly habit in that it requires us to give up ourselves. 

Let one another go first. Give someone else the bigger cookie. 

Not just the behavior but talk them through the why and how it connects to their hearts. 

Serve in the community and in the church. 

Sharing the Gospel – sharing the gift of the gospel generally in the power of the Spirit. 

John 20:21

Matthew 28:16-20

Are you making time for people? 

 Are you inviting your neighbors into their house?

Are you looking people in the eye when ordering food? 

 Encourage your kids to smile at people. Ask your kids to help you see people. Pray together to see what God wants us to see. Team up in sharing the Gospel. 

What hope do you have now for the future now that you believe in Jesus? 

Think about kids they know that do not know Jesus. Ask God to help them share that love. 

How are we as a whole changed by the presence and participation of children in the discipleship journey? 

“Teaching and passing on faith to children strengthens the faith of adults. Keeping our focus on God, enjoying and serving the Lord with our children takes intentional diligence…especially in a culture of ease. The needed diligence is filed by the depth of our commitment to Him and the depth of the commitment that we will together be people that passes on faith to our children.” Scottie May

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Leadership Co Notes

Henry Seeley 

It’s less about information and more about Importation. What does God want to do in our hearts? Digest this spiritually. 

Not following a list of rules or guidelines from someone else’s growth. This leads to insecure leaders. Imitate another model or blueprint. What God has done here might not work there. 

Churches in Nashville met on Sunday morning but there were a group of musicians that are gone on the weekend and need a new model. The thing that agitates you is the thing you’re often anointed for. You see that it needs to change and can change. The greatest ministry comes at the greatest cost. If you want to do something significant in the kingdom of God there is a cost. The cost is everything. You can’t have the fruit without the cost. You wouldn’t know what to do with the fruit. What people do with free stuff, they view it as worthless. 

Social media can be the absolute best and worst for us. We ask, “How do we make what we have, look like what they have?” This leads to an empty shell. What if instead we press into God and see what He has for us! Be secure in who you are and what God has called you to or else you’ll spend your life trying to live up to another person’s expectations. 

The church has operated out of insecurity. You’ll never dictate culture if you’re too busy trying to imitate it. The church try’s to do a church version of the world. We have the presence of God and the world is missing it. Why would I show up when there is something better somewhere else? Because of the presence of God. 

Don’t be afraid of doing things well. Express worship through your gifts. If the Holy Spirit says thank you for your preparation but I’m going this way. The team needs to be prepared to be u prepared. The end goal is not a service time or creative element the end goal is tuning into what God wants to do. Don’t let your plan get in the way of His presence. Don’t be offended if Holy Spirit takes the service another direction. It’s not your time. The most important thing you can do is to make space for the presence of God. 

The method is getting on your face before God. The method is in the secret place where the Spirit speaks. If you’re not dealing with your insecurities you aren’t secure enough to follow the presence of God. Your security doesn’t line in your notes. If you’re insecure and believe your security is where you lead the song then you won’t be secure enough to step into what you’re really called for. No one realizes they have insecurities. There are things God wants to do with each of us. Insecurity is a thief that will rob from you. Rob your joy, your relationships, your calling. What if we were so secure we realized we didn’t build the church but God built the church. Insecure leaders build empires, secure leaders build the kingdom. 

You are never elevated beyond serving. Jesus whole goal was to serve. Jesus didn’t talk leadership but being a servant. When we feel elevated beyond the people and do not serve the people we hurt the church. If I don’t show up to serve then I’ve lost Jesus. Have people around us who are not yes people or insecure but can come to us and point out what they are seeing. You can’t be the best leader in isolation. What sucks about this is you have to be vulnerable. The grace of God is evident in our lives when we allow others to speak into our lives. Not leading from top-down but arm in arm. No one’s position is less or greater. We understand the mandate in the position and confidently link arms and march forward. What if we realized our mandate was to build the kingdom? If someone leaves our church that’s not a backward step. 

Secure leaders know how to deal with offense and disappointment. How you deal with this will make the difference. What do you do when you have a Judas in your midst? Do you shove them out? Jesus never changed His posture with Judas. When you feel betrayed realize Jesus never shunned Judas, He invited him to the table. Jesus never lost sight of His calling and the opportunity to be brought close. There was always grace available, even to the last point. Do you spend your energy and focus on the one or two and lose sight of what you’re really called to be doing? Be a leader who knows how to love even when you’ve been offended. 

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Alex Seeley

We have a generation coming who has a growing disdain for the church. The primary wound in our society is rejection. They feel already rejected. Identity crisis is taking place. We can not do church how we always have. Jesus is the cornerstone. The essence of a pure Gospel is love. Known as disciples if we love. Love those who are resistant to our love. Love those who oppose you. Love beyond the betrayal. Love unconditionally. It’s easy to love those who are easy to love. It’s easy to love those who serve you. 

This next generation is looking for a virtual un-church. Done with coming in to receive just formation. They are done with cleaning up to be accepted. What they want is the truth in love, to call them up to what God has called them to be. Not a seeker-sensitive church but a church that attracts seekers by offering living water. Not a motivational speech but a transformation in the Holy Spirit that breaks addictions and causes transformation. 

We are in a spiritual battlefield and you need to understand what the battle looks like in your town. Don’t practice a relationship with Holy Spirit on the stage, meet Him in the quiet place. The ministry is not to build your name or platform or even to do what you feel called to do. It’s not to behave and then you can belong. True love says you have a place at the table before you believe or before you behave. 

The antidote to rejection is love. Jesus attracted every sphere of influence because His love source came from God. Have a full revelation of His love. Rejection begets more rejection. Jesus lived without agenda or need to be loved. 

This agape love that is the antidote to rejection is not encountered through intellectual or motivation but the power of the Holy Spirit and experienced in presence. 

You carry a 3 part of the Holy Spirit: Presence, Power and the Prophetic. 

Miracles, Signs, and Wonders. 

The mega-church without God’s spirit: It’s very interesting to see what man can build. 

Bring the presence of the Almighty Jesus. Not satisfied with a good program unless someone is set free and delivered. I don’t know what it is but I sense his presence. Break fear and addiction. 

Know what it is to encounter the presence of God. Not just extra songs because we try to manufacture presence. You can have His presence without the music even starting. It’s the presence you are carrying. 

Power of God moves where you can’t take credit. 

Presence is getting out of the way and following the movement of God. 

People don’t want to be entertained, they want to go home different. This is not about me providing your breakthrough but giving God time to breakthrough each individual. My words are nothing. 

Not the love for what I have to share or the love for our program but a love for the people. 

The world needs to see the opposite of what it’s currently seeing. Love those who curse you. Go the extra mile. Flip what is expected. Jesus was able to love beyond everything because He didn’t entrust everyone with His heart but He gave His full heart to God. It doesn’t say to entrust one another but to love. Love beyond the betrayal. Love even when it costs you. Do you want to be right or in right relationship? Jesus didn’t have to prove Himself. Jesus didn’t even bring his best friend, John, into the offense by talking about Judas. Love covers even when you’re going to be betrayed. The disciples didn’t know who was the betrayer because Jesus never brought anyone into that offense. Jesus loves fully. His love is pure. He called Peter to build the church and even after the offense and betrayal, He redeems. Though my trust was broken, Jesus love is so much stronger than the broken relationship. 

So why are we so hard on our people? We are called to love beyond. We can shift a generation from being offended to a saint who is called to die for the cause of Christ. Are we building churches that are prepared for persecution? You don’t die for someone you are just being entertained by. 

Q&A 

Paul Bergin

Banning Liebscher – Jesus Culture Founder 

What’s the biggest issue in the church? 

Wrong definition of success. It’s not a number but the presence of God. Creating structures that crest immature believers. American consumerism crept into the church to make things as easy as possible. Businesses eliminate struggle to gain business. When you’re a leader with insecurity you need people to show up for you to feel better. When you remove the struggle you create immature believers. There is a struggle involved in the community. 

What are we doing to respond to this struggle?

Jesus called us to lay down our lives. We are not preparing our church for persecution. We are raising children who don’t understand discipline and how to wait and therefore are offended by everything. Butterfly analogy of opening the cocoon. It will look good but it won’t fulfill its calling. The goal is growing mature people that become a large church in Jesus name. 

What would you tell your 20-year-old self?

Be more patient and not look for greener grass. When you extract yourself from something difficult you lose an opportunity for refinement. 

Slow down and focus on internal health. Make sure what’s driving you is actually healthy. 

Know when you are in a preparation session. A season of refinement. Don’t short circuit the refinement process. The enemy will take you out. 

The goal is the journey, not the destination. Have joy in the journey. Don’t keep yourself busy with the excuse of ministry. 

There’s a difference between Anointing over your life. Word over your life. Authority or appointed over your life. David has to wait. 

Meet with your team to encourage. People generally know their mistakes and failures. Atop and celebrate what God is doing. You’re worth more than what you can do here. Your value doesn’t come through your efforts. Excellence is not perfectionism. It’s giving your best to God. You’re thinking too highly of yourself if you think your successes will build the church. 

When the church is a polished performance people either see right through it or they don’t relate. 

Life is but an interruption of eternity. 

When kids are little they will jump over hurdles to get to you but when they grow up they will rarely put in the effort. 

Do your kids know they can interrupt at any point because they are more important than a ministry. 

Advice for planning a church?

Enjoy the journey. Look fondly in this season. Focus on building a culture more than a crowd. Ask, would you go to this if you weren’t leading this? Build what you would like to attend. Core values. Authenticity. Presence. You have to build a community. Be okay with unmet needs. Deep value in maturing believers. Find identity in Jesus. Fully engaged and fully alive in their calling. 

In most church planing models the launch date is the goal. You’ve got a whole life ahead to be looking forward to. 

If you have to build X ministry so people won’t leave then you’re building the church for people and not for God. 

What are you doing to engage the broader city? 

Build people. If the individual is equipped and ready then what comes out of them will engage the city. You contribute to the family you lead in the city. What’s in the hearts of your people? 

How does the church deal with people in the church who deal with homosexuality? 

Everyone is welcome in the house of God. We preach the truth to all. We don’t preach on a single sin but on bringing Jesus into the room. Jesus let the rich young ruler make the decision and didn’t chase after him. He preached the truth in love. Let the Holy Spirit do the work. 

We have a lot of grace for sins we understand but not sins that we don’t understand. This is set aside as the pet peeve sin. 

Complicated issue but not biblically complicated. Layers with laws being passed, people who don’t take the word as the final authority, people in the church who don’t think you’re correct in theology, and people experimenting. You need to know who you’re talking with. Do you allow people to serve who struggle with sin? Restore the identity of Christ. Stop identifying people by their sin. Gluten. Liar. Etc. battle in identity. Stop labeling stop identifying and love people. 

How do you seek God in the secret place? 

Drive, worship, pray. The word of God. Open the word and keep reading until God speaks. 

Constant dialog all day with Holy Spirit. Times of intercession prayer. Reading the Word. 

It’s a relationship. Some relationships are very structured and others are more rigid. You need to be coming to the Lord in this season. 

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Release of Awe and Wonder tonight!

Banning Liebscher

Prayer for Natalie – Prophet of Hope 

1 Samuel 1

God has plans and purposes for your life, for your family, for your city, for your church, and for your sphere of influence. He invites you to partner with Him to see that happen. You are most fully alive in that partnership. 

God speaks a word to Hannah. Everything changed for her. It brought her to a place of faith. God plants a seed. He wants to get us to a place of faith. John 15:7 abide in Christ and His words abide in you. Draw close to Jesus and have His words abide. 

There’s a difference between hearing a word and listening to a word. Allowing the word to abide in you. 

Pregnancy test illustration. That second line changes everything. When the word of the Lord comes it changes everything. In the natural, ready or not the baby is coming. In the spiritual side, you need to learn how to carry the word of the Lord. You need to abide and nurture the word. 

You don’t need a fresh word you need to know what to do with the one you’ve got. When you begin to learn to carry the word, faith begins to manifest in your life. 

Big bucks!

His word comes not just to encourage but to ignite the faith inside of us. Faith looks like something. 

Faith manifests in preparation. 

In the church, we complicate things Jesus made simple. Simple and homespun. By faith, Noah prepared an ark. Hebrews 11. When the Lord speaks to you, your life will be different afterward. When the Lord speaks to you, it should cause you to prepare if you believe Him. If someone says they are coming over we believe them and prepare. We believe people more than we believe in God. A lack of preparation communicates a lack of value. 

The widow and Elisha. Oil and a jar. 2 Kings 4:5-6. There is not another vessel so the oil stopped. The principle, not a law. The level of outpouring in your life is linked to your preparation. 

This is what your life should look like: Building arks and gathering vessels. If you hear a word about filling stadiums, start inviting people into your living room. Take a speaking class. What simple step can I do to prepare? 

Faith manifests in the proclamation. 

What comes out of your mouth matters. 

The power of life and death is in your tongue. How careless are you about what’s coming out of your mouth? 

Not scared but sober. To understand the power and responsibility. If you’re careless it can result in disaster. My words are either partnering with God and His plans and purposes or undermining God and His plans and purposes. 

An angel appears to Zachariah and out of his mouth unbelief comes. The angel mutes him for nine months. This isn’t a punishment but a help. 

Out of the heart, the mouth speaks. Sometimes the best thing you can do is go on mute. Unbelief is on your heart and coming out of your mouth. Unbelief is a belief in the wrong thing. Are you more connected with your circumstances than the word of the Lord?  

Faith is not acting like theirs not a mountain in front of us. Faith is saying there’s a greater reality than the mountain. There may be cancer but there’s a higher name than cancer. Connect my heart to the hire name than reality. There may be depression but there’s a hire name. This is why it’s so important to god His word in your heart. 

Are you Spirit-led or feelings led? You will be feelings led if your life is not anchored to scripture. 

What we do now, is put people in a Jesus time out. How’d it go…feelings? No, Jesus time out. What does Jesus say? 

When the word of the Lord comes you no longer have permission to say anything else. Have the discipline to stop talking when you’re not speaking His word. When God’s word is in your heart, it’s coming out of your heart. When His word is full in your heart your circumstances won’t dictate your heart. 

Shove so much word in your heart that when my life pulls up to the train stop and life tries to get in, there’s no room to get in. 

Is what’s coming out of my mouth circumstances, social media, toxic? Repent and stop allowing unbelief to come out of your heart. 

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Alex Seeley

God is not obligated to fulfill your potential. You have the responsibility to nurture the seed. 

“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Because of the joy awaiting him, he endured the cross, disregarding its shame. Now he is seated in the place of honor beside God’s throne. Think of all the hostility he endured from sinful people; then you won’t become weary and give up.”

Hebrews 12:1-3 NLT

Don’t lose heart. Let Jesus do the work so we can be the person he called us to be. 

Will you finish like John or Judas?

C.S. Lewis — ‘For you will certainly carry out God’s purpose, however, you act, but it makes a difference to you whether you serve like Judas or like John.’ 

A saint is set apart. We talk differently and look differently. The enemy will try to hinder your call, to weight you down so you don’t finish the race. 

We let our heart grow calicos. We let our heart get tangled up in things of the world. 

King Saul and King David. Both appointed. Same spirit. Both start at the age of 30. Both have a kingdom for 49 years. The difference was their heart. The one who died with honor was David. The one who took himself out of the game was Saul. The difference was their heart. 

David was far from perfect but he did say he was sorry and repented. 

“Saul replied, “But I’m only from the tribe of Benjamin, the smallest tribe in Israel, and my family is the least important of all the families of that tribe! Why are you talking like this to me?” 1 Samuel 9:21 NLT

Saul felt disqualified. He saw himself small in his own eyes. God called him big. We must believe God and take Him at His word. When God calls us we must say, “Here I am Lord.”

We can not sustain the race with a one time encounter. We have to allow God to refine us into the likeness of Christ. 

“So they asked the Lord, “Where is he?” And the Lord replied, “He is hiding among the baggage.” So they found him and brought him out, and he stood head and shoulders above anyone else.” 1 Samuel 10:22-23 NLT

Saul was hiding behind his baggage. We need a generation that is resolved to know who they are in Christ. It doesn’t matter what your baggage is or how you feel on the inside. You must stand tall on both the inside and the outside. 

You can tell a person who carries themselves tall on the inside. God doesn’t need you a head taller on the outside. It’s not popularity. Insecurity is so prevalent in this next generation. God called you unique. God is waiting on you to arise. 

David was different. He was the 8th option. There’s one more but he’s just the youngest. There’s a reason for David to be insecure but he doesn’t come in with insecurity because of his anointing. David went back to being a shepherd because he didn’t need the title to define who he was. He was fully secure because his position in Christ is on the inside. 

David delivers sandwiches to his brothers. A secure heart just obeys. Not doing the work to be noticed but know who they are and what they are called to do. Whatever is asked of me, I will serve unto the Lord. 

Saul was given the title. 

“David left his things with the keeper of supplies and hurried out to the ranks to greet his brothers.” 1 Samuel 17:22 NLT

David left his baggage and ran to the battle lines marked out for him. David knew he was born to take down the enemy. He didn’t need a crown to act. He knew he was a king on the inside. 

We are all in a race. We give an account to God on what He called us to do. No excuses before God. I want to hear well done good and faithful SERVANT. Not well done good and faithful pastor or well done good and faithful king. 

You are in training now. We need to fight private battles before taking the stage. We want the spotlight without the testing. It’s for your good to fight private battles before public battles. Our confidence is in the Lord. It’s not arrogance to be confident in the things of God, it’s actually your responsibility. Arrogance is bent in insecurity but confidence is bathed in humility. 

So many of us waver on the opinion of man. You can listen to the option of man and shrink back or you can stand firm in God’s authority. 

The very thing you are called to do you will be attacked in. David’s brother attacked him. When you do what’s right in God’s eyes you will be attacked but when you are confident in your calling you move forward. David didn’t engage in the battle with his brother. That’s fighting the wrong battle. 

David remembered the victories of the past. Some of us remember what we should be forgetting and forget what we should be remembering. Remember when the word of the Lord is spoken. Prepare your heart. Remember God did it then and will do it again. I’m not a product of my sin, I’m a new creation and now I run the race. 

Saul saw the circumstances big. Insecurity begets insecurity and toxicity. A secure leader cheers people on because it brings glory to the Lord. 

You come with weapons of the world but I come in the name of God. No force on this earth is greater than God. Saul saw the problem and David saw God as the solution. We don’t fight with things of the world but with divine power to demolish strongholds. 

David knew how to repent. Saul only knew how to say I’ve sinned and I’m sorry. I’m sorry is when you accidentally bump someone in the elevator not when you have broken the heart of God. Repentance is the way to breakthrough. Godly sorrow that causes change. Sorry is in the moment. Look into someone’s eyes. When rebellion is in the heart they don’t look in your eyes. “Look in my eyes are their naughties in your heart.” Dear Jesus, I repent. Take the naughties out and put the good things in. Sorry is behavior modification. Sorry is a statement that doesn’t require a response. 

Godly sorry brings repentance that leads to salvation and no regret but worldly sorry brings death. 

Psalm 51:10-12

“Create in me a clean heart, O God. Renew a loyal spirit within me. Do not banish me from your presence, and don’t take your Holy Spirit from me. Restore to me the joy of your salvation, and make me willing to obey you.”

Living in perpetual rebellion took Saul out. God would rather your obedience than your sacrifice. Half obedience is disobedience. No shortcuts. Obedience increases your authority. 

When David was corrected he asked God for a new heart. He begged God please don’t take your presence because it’s the only thing sustaining me. 

Willie Wonka leaving his legacy to a child. No one has seen the kingdom realm. Looking for a successor that he could trust his dream with. One was entitled one wanted to be famous. One was rebellious. But Charlie who was the least likely to be picked and the one who broke the rules and tried to hide it. The other children took themselves out. They broke the rules. They signed a contract. They were given a gobstopper but it was a test to see the heart. Charlie gave up his opportunity to be rich and gave his gobstopper. So shines a good deed in a weary world. You did what was right so it’s all yours. 

Banning Liebscher 

God’s heart for you is to be fully alive and fully free. The job description of Jesus is giving life to the full. The enemy wants you in bondage. His primary weapon of choice is lies. Lies to separate you from the truth. Connect to truth equals freedom. Lies separate and lead to bondage. 

“so that Satan will not outsmart us. For we are familiar with his evil schemes.” 2 Corinthians 2:11 NLT

1 Kings 19 Elijah coming off Mt Carmel. After this great victory, he then begins lies. 

3 lies we still wrestle with today: 

He believed the lie that God abandoned him. Not that he became a full-blown atheist but a situational atheist. God is not in this situation. God has the whole world in his hands but not this situation. God exists just not in our finances or marriage. 

He believed the lie that the situation was hopeless. Elijah sat down. He stopped moving forward. 

He believed the lie that he was all alone. That there were no more people with him. 

How is it that Elijah a man of God is believing God and then the next moment is believing a lie. A profound victory with a whole nation turning back to God and then believes lies. The enemy is looking for a foothold to place a lie. 

Elijah was worn down and worn out and dropped his guard. When you’re worn out you drop your guard and the enemy steps in with a foothold. Boxing 101. Touch their head to keep their guard. The enemy is trying to get you to drop your guard for just a second. 

Above all else, guard your heart. Everything you do flows from it. The enemy wants you to drop your guard. He will plant lies that take root. 

Combat medics. 

Care under fire. Care at the scene where both under hostile fire. Tourniquet on major bleed. Quickly assess what matters. You could be fixing his shoulder when he’s bleeding out. Assess quickly the major bleeds. You can deal with other things later but above all else right now guard your heart. When going through difficult times guard your heart. Don’t allow the enemy to gain access with lies. 

When we are worn down we drop the guard. Sometimes a lot is coming at us. A cat on the u-haul season. A lot of stuff happening right now. 

Sometimes we drop our guard because we think a season is going to be over but it’s not over. In boxing, they prepare for 5 rounds but it goes 7 and they are not prepared for the later rounds. 

Sometimes you drop your guard because you just keep getting hit in the same place. When it rains it pours. 

We have to get a lot better at figuring out what we are believing. Lies operate in darkness. They get power in the shadows. Do we stop long enough to check under the house? What’s going on in my eternal world? 

How do you keep your guard up in life?

Don’t underestimate the power of a meal and a nap. 

God’s going to meet face to face with Elijah but he provided a meal and a nap. The physical and spiritual are connected. Figure out what your meal and a nap is. If you’re worn out you don’t need to fast. You don’t need to get up early and pray. You need a nap. Elijah believed lies because he’s tired. 

Always keep one foot in the water. 

Navy Seals thrive in the water when others can’t. America special forces book. Sea, Air, Land. If I can retreat to water, it’s where I’m most comfortable and confident. The enemy can’t follow me into water. Water is where I thrive and where you die. In the presence of God, you must retreat. I may feel powerless here but in the presence of God, I have oxygen and lies die. Retreat to the presence. In the presence is joy and strength. I feel weak here but in Christ I have joy. You have to have a default mode to retreat to the presence of God. You can find his presence anywhere at any time. Turn your heart and affections to God. In your presence, lies and discouragement dies. 

Who you show up with matters. 

Elijah has a servant with him who he left and went a days journey to complain about being alone. Pity parties are a party of one. Our guard drops when we disconnect from the community. Who you show up with matters. It’s just me and Jesus when it comes to salvation but after walking through that door he introduces you to your family. “We’ve given it our best and it’s just not working.” Giving it your best is not enough, it’s not healthy. My marriage has health and blessing not because I brought my best but because I got the best of others and brought it in. We are strong because who you show up with matters. I may get whooped once but why would I show up again when I’ve got friends. Make phone calls and don’t go at it alone. The most discouraged people are those who get isolated. Our guard drops when we disconnect from community. Those alone are wide open to deception and the devil gets a foothold. Community matters. 

Toby Mac

A story and the integrity to back it up. 

The edge of your seat posture. Today I GET to…

It has to be a priority when small or it won’t be a priority when big. Be faithful with the little things. 

A gift God gave me to turn eyes to him. 

Building a team. Pray, “God will you surround me with people who love you more than I do so that I can be inspired by them and grow.” 

It’s our job to empower others and let them thrive. Step into the mirror. I can’t do this. I’m not strong enough but God has given me you, the secret sauce. 

Not just a Christian but someone who loves the Lord. If you dare to call Him your Lord there’s only one position for you and that’s a servant. Servants main job is to wait on the Lord’s request. When you hear it, act. 

Nate and Joanna Lampa

When you love someone you fall in love with what they love. Where is God looking? What matters to God matters to you. 

God loves the wild ones and the church needs them. 

When you approach the broken and marginalized remember God is already there. 

God loves you right where you are at. 

Write your whole life in one sentence. 

Ryan Lampa

Without a true north, it’s really hard to navigate. 

Is your five dollar program going to take away my depression or addictions? No. I just want to be your friend. 

God, I’m missing something. Will you just show me how to love? 

There’s only one tried and true way to help someone in the margins. Introduce them to the creator. 

The scale at which you do these things. Don’t start with building a nonprofit. Start by feeding one two or three. Don’t start a board of directors, grab your friends. 

Feed the hungry. Drinks to the thirst. Clothes to those who need clothes. Welcome strangers. 

In obeying these statutes, remember Jesus prayer for all of us. Be as intimate with each other as God is with His father. 

When you focus on things of the spirit the things of the world fall away. 

The blood of the lamb and the word of your testimony. 

Danny Gokey

Make space for God in your heart. It starts with a hunger. What do you need to release to make room for God? 

Some of the best things that can happen in your life is a shut door. 

Failure to a believer is really transition. God uses it. 

Are you hungry and available? 

Better than I found it. 

If our public life doesn’t match our public life it will all come crashing down. 

Mark Maxwell

Your mission field isn’t just on the other side of the world, it’s feet from your house. Be expectant for God to move each and every day. 

What is your definition of success? 

Networking kills. Young artist lose focus. False indicator of success. Contradicts the creator who is all about giving and not taking. Whoever wants to be great must be a servant. 

Serving is where you are successful. 

Anybody can be great because anybody can serve. Martin Luther King. 

Serving erases the fear of failure.

Serving creates a sense of purpose. 

Serving creates value for you and others. 

Serving creates a provision. 

Serving changes the world because it changes others. 

The world call is karma, the Bible calls it planting and harvesting.

Life moves pretty fast. Don’t miss the moments. 

Psalm 90. Redeem the time. Make every conversation count. 

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Robert Madu

Do you have an expectation to hear God’s word? Someone once said this was the best message you ever preached but maybe this was just the best message you ever listened to.

Mark 5:21-43

Almost titles this message ”Get Up” but because of verse 40-41 ”Get Out”

“The crowd laughed at him. But he made them all leave, and he took the girl’s father and mother and his three disciples into the room where the girl was lying.” Mark 5:40 NLT

You know those people who light up a room when they leave the room. 

Jesus made them all leave. He kicked them out. Those who laughed, He kicked out. 

What if the power of the miracle isn’t just in the miracle itself but in the atmosphere of the environment. Check your environment and tell some things to get out. 

Once you peel back the layers you see that none of us live in the autonomy of me, myself, and I. We are connected. 

You do you and I do me doesn’t work. You doing you affects me. 

These two stories of Jairus and the woman suffering from blood are connected. He is a ruler in the synagogues she isn’t even allowed in. He is rich and she is broke. He is named and respected. She is not. They are both hit with something neither of them can’t handle. 

When you can’t handle it, throw up your hands and know that surely He can handle it. 

They both had to push people away do get to Jesus. Do something they didn’t have to do before to get something they have never received. You want God to show up like Amazon prime but sometimes you have to push something out of the way. They are pushing because desperate people do desperate things. 

God will often use desperation to push you into your destiny. Desperation is the door that breakthrough walks through. Desperation brought them both to the feet of Jesus. 

Jairus is desperate because his daughter IS dying. The 12-year-old dying daughter and the woman was bleeding for 12 years. If this were a movie both would walk out of the hospital very differently. In life, you can be so preoccupied with your promise or problems that you are oblivious to others. You need to rejoice with those who rejoice and weep with those who weep. Romans 12. 

”Biblical Blues Clues” 12

Jacob had 12 sons

12 tribes of Israel 

A breastplate with 12 stones on the priest

Jesus taught in the temple at the age of 12

Jesus chose 12 disciples

The number of Gods power and authority. 

Everything is under the power and authority of Jesus. He can handle whatever the world is throwing at you. 

It is your awareness of Gids authority in your life that will determine what you receive from Him. Tie your faith to the anchor of God’s authority. You need an awareness of God’s authority. He is the ultimate authority. 

Jesus calming the storm. They marveled at His authority and said you of little faith. They shouldn’t have woken Jesus up they should have curled up and taken a nap with confidence in His authority. An awareness of His authority problem. 

When you trust God as the authority you can sleep at night because He’s in charge. 

Jairus got a house call from Jesus because he was aware of Gods authority. The woman knew Jesus authority and knew she only needed to touch His coat. 

The centurion soldier knew Jesus had authority without even showing up. He knew God’s power. 

”You don’t have a faith problem, you have an awareness of God’s authority issue.”

If you don’t believe the speaker has authority you doubt their word. Example of customer service, can I speak to your manager. Can I speak to has the power to change the situation? 

I hope you get so annoyed when the devil is messing with you and your family and say that you need to speak to the one who is in charge. The one with authority. 

The moment she touched the hem of His garment she was healed. This interruption comes after being filled with the joy when Jesus says He will go to Jairus daughter. This was an emergency and Jairus was waiting on Jesus. The woman broke the law by being unclean and touching Jesus. Jesus stops and talks to her. Jairus is waiting. She told him the whole story. Jairus is waiting. He watched her get her miracle and waited. 

What do you do when you watch someone get a miracle while you are waiting on a miracle. Celebrate. Don’t be jealous. Know God is still in the blessing business. He did it for them and He can do it for me. Not always in the same way. Stop comparing yourself to other people. 

Jairus wanted healing and got a resurrection. But remember what he had to go through. His daughter died. They came and said it was time to quit and give up on the dream God gave them. Watch out for these people. 

Jesus says don’t be afraid just believe. Don’t stay here, it’s not over till I say it is. Sometimes God will let it go from bad to worse so that you stop trying to lead God and allow Him to lead you.

They arrived at the house and the people laughed. Jesus said to get out. Say to your insecurity to get out. 

Darrell Johnson

Ephesians 1:3 ”Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ.”

The role of preaching in a worship service is to explain to the people what they just experienced. 

Through worship, we participate in the mystery. Worship if the living God does not begin with us and it does not end with us. 

To enter into a worship service here on earth is to join in on a worship service already taking place in heaven. Things are not what they seem. 

Loved ones didn’t pass away, they passed through. 

The question is not what did I get out of it. The question is did I enter into the worship already in progress. 

“It was in the year King Uzziah died that I saw the Lord. He was sitting on a lofty throne, and the train of his robe filled the Temple.” Isaiah 6:1 NLT 740bc. 

“Attending him were mighty seraphim, each having six wings. With two wings they covered their faces, with two they covered their feet, and with two they flew. They were calling out to each other, “Holy, holy, holy is the Lord of Heaven’s Armies! The whole earth is filled with his glory!” Isaiah 6:2-3 NLT

“Then as I looked, I saw a door standing open in heaven, and the same voice I had heard before spoke to me like a trumpet blast. The voice said, “Come up here, and I will show you what must happen after this.” And instantly I was in the Spirit, and I saw a throne in heaven and someone sitting on it.

Each of these living beings had six wings, and their wings were covered all over with eyes, inside and out. Day after day and night after night they keep on saying, “Holy, holy, holy is the Lord God, the Almighty— the one who always was, who is, and who is still to come.” Revelation 4:1-2, 8 NLT

From Isaiah to Revelation something changed. 740BC To 92AD something changed. 

What is the same and what is different between these two passages? The difference is what makes Christian worship Christian. 

What’s the same?

Both have the same thrown. 

The throne is occupied. 

The king’s death bright fear. Christian persecution brings fear. 

The rise and fall of empires. When all other thrones disintegrate this throne remains. 

Holy, holy, holy. Same song. 

Creatures with six wings attend to the throne. 

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What’s different?

24 other thrones. The living God brings 24 others in 2×12. The fulfillment of Jesus promises you will reign with me. The capital T throne is not toppled and neither are the lower case t thrones. The gates of hell will not prevail. 

6 wings and with two wings cover their faces. Unable to handle the presence of God. Later no mention of covering faces and they are full of eyes. Now they can behold holiness. Now they can stand in the presence of holiness. 

In the middle of the throne a lamb. In the middle of the one holy one who sits on the throne is a lamb as if slain. 

Something has been changed for creation to be in the presence of God. No longer hiding their faces but opening their eyes and looking at the lamb of God. It was woe is me and now it’s worthy is the lamb. Jesus is worthy because He made it possible for me to be there. 

Grace greater than all our sin. In the middle of all that holiness is the lamb calling you in. 

Not woes is me but worthy is He. 

You are not the point in worship. It’s not what you got out of it. Did I realize Jesus is at the center of it all and did I cry out to Him who isn’t the center of it all? 

Paul Bergin 

When the atmosphere changes and a mighty wind blows in there is something of a new birth of the Spirit of God. 

“At the Lord’s command, the whole community of Israel left the wilderness of Sin and moved from place to place. Eventually they camped at Rephidim, but there was no water there for the people to drink. So once more the people complained against Moses. “Give us water to drink!” they demanded. “Quiet!” Moses replied. “Why are you complaining against me? And why are you testing the Lord?” Exodus 17:1-2 NLT

“Moses named the place Massah (which means “test”) and Meribah (which means “arguing”) because the people of Israel argued with Moses and tested the Lord by saying, “Is the Lord here with us or not?” Exodus 17:7 NLT

“In the first month of the year, the whole community of Israel arrived in the wilderness of Zin and camped at Kadesh. While they were there, Miriam died and was buried. There was no water for the people to drink at that place, so they rebelled against Moses and Aaron.

Moses and Aaron turned away from the people and went to the entrance of the Tabernacle, where they fell face down on the ground. Then the glorious presence of the Lord appeared to them,

But the Lord said to Moses and Aaron, “Because you did not trust me enough to demonstrate my holiness to the people of Israel, you will not lead them into the land I am giving them!” This place was known as the waters of Meribah (which means “arguing”) because there the people of Israel argued with the Lord, and there he demonstrated his holiness among them.” Numbers 20:1-2, 6, 12-13 NLT

What is the same and what is different? 

God is saying to His people He will provide all their needs in a barren land. 

If you’re in a wilderness season remember that  God provides living water. 

In numbers 20, it’s the same water, the same rock but a different generation that has not known what it means to live in captivity. 

The difference now is you are to speak to the rock. 

As a teenager, a raging torrent came from his belly and put his mouth in a knot of words that poured out for hours. 

Holy Spirit is in us, with us, and wants to move through us. 

We have a popularity preaching contest. It’s not about being on the stage and entertaining. 

“And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words.” Romans 8:26 NLT

When you don’t know what to pray for you have an interceder. Interceding through you and in you. You are not left to your self. You are not hopeless. You don’t have all the answers but the person of the Holy Spirit does. 

The Holy Spirit because He is The One and Only. 

Pray, ”Holy Spirit, what should I do?”

Water came out of the second rock even though it wasn’t the will of God. 

Isn’t it funny that when we ask the Holy Spirit He helps us? He’s trying out for someone to partner with Him. 

“I don’t want you to forget, dear brothers and sisters, about our ancestors in the wilderness long ago. All of them were guided by a cloud that moved ahead of them, and all of them walked through the sea on dry ground. In the cloud and in the sea, all of them were baptized as followers of Moses. All of them ate the same spiritual food, and all of them drank the same spiritual water. For they drank from the spiritual rock that traveled with them, and that rock was Christ.” 1 Corinthians 10:1-4 NLT

This is the rock of Christ being revealed in the new covenant. The church needs to see something now. They are being filled with living waters. 

Went from glorious moment to disobedience. Unbelief is at the heart of it. You didn’t sanctify me as Holy. You didn’t show me as one set apart. God isn’t glorified. 

Moses wasn’t just ticked off with the people he was offended by God. Don’t run to people but fall on your face before God. 

The power is in you. You don’t need to strike the rock twice. 

Jesus died once and once for all. His death and resurrection is enough to accomplish all. His blood is enough for me. Your issue is not bigger than the blood of Christ. It’s resurrection power. Know what the blood does over your life. The Spirit always follows the word. If you’ve seen the father you’ve seen me. If you don’t know the word you are walking around powerless. Where is the ability to get the job done? This is the age of anxiety. Let this be the age of peace. It’s not the will of God that you live in fear. 

Speak to the rock. Speak to the Spirit. Talk with your partner and co-laborer. The enemy is no match. 

Psalm 23. This is a warfare passage. 

The Lord prepares the table. 

It’s easy to think that you host Him. That you serve Him. 

Turn the affection of your heart to God. 

He invites you into Him. He is the host and invites you into communion with the Holy Spirit. He prepares the table. Jesus says welcome. You don’t have to worry or fear because the Spirit prepares the table in the presence of your enemy. 

Crucified with Christ means your fears have died. You don’t care about looking foolish. 

Why ask for God to show up? He’s there and never leaves. 

“Anyone who believes in me may come and drink! For the Scriptures declare, ‘Rivers of living water will flow from his heart.’” (When he said “living water,” he was speaking of the Spirit, who would be given to everyone believing in him. But the Spirit had not yet been given, because Jesus had not yet entered into his glory.)” John 7:38-39 NLT

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